How do we get the love we want in relationships? And the attention? Whether your partner is exhausted after work, or your date has a bad cell phone habit, It’s easy to complain about what you don’t get. Today’s podcast gives you a new practice for getting the love you want, and the attention you need, instead of learning how to stop wanting attention.
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Getting the Love You Want Without Demands or Complaints: Show Notes
Whether you’re dating or in a long term relationship, you’ll find that people won’t always pay as much attention to you as you’d like. These days our attention is pulled in so many directions, especially by cell phones and screens. It’s often easier to get upset with someone else for this, than to look at our own habits.
Instead of complaining, I teach my clients how to shift their complaints into speaking their desires. This has changed dynamics that had been happening for months or years! Today’s guest has another powerful solution that fits with this, and supports this perspective I believe in:
Rather than seeing a relationship as a place to try to get something you want, see a relationship as a beautiful place to co-create it.
On today’s Practicing Love Podcast, Keith Edwards, a speaker, educator, trusted leader, and unconventional scholar, talks about his practice of giving what he wants to receive. He is practicing being more conscious of his own habit of disconnection, and seeing how getting more present creates more of what he wants in his relationship.
Keith has consulted with more than 300 organizations, written more than 25 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, as well as authored the book: Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity, and he has more than 1,000 hours as a certified leadership and executive coach. And he agrees that romantic relationships are some of the hardest relationships we engage in. We discussed…
- The complexities of masculinity and how men are often trapped in rigid gender norms that harm their well-being
- The power of being present in relationships, which is much more impactful than demanding presence from others
- Letting go of the expectations and “keeping score” that lead to resentment in relationships
- How appreciation transforms relationships
- Creating true connection by understanding and supporting each other’s journeys
- Using the identity / integrity loop to grow into the person you admire
- Shifting from focusing on how everyone else should be to how you’re being
- The potential for collective healing and liberation
Keith is an inspiring human! You can also listen to his interview on the importance of men taking off their masks on my previous podcast — Man Alive.
If you’re struggling to get the love and attention you want, check out my quiz here to discover what’s getting in the way, or respond to this email to tell me more.
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Keith empowers transformation for better tomorrows. He is an expert on leadership, learning, and equity. This expertise includes curricular approaches to learning beyond the classroom, allyship and equity, leadership and coaching, authentic masculinity, and sexual violence prevention. He is an authentic educator, trusted leader, and unconventional scholar.
Keith has consulted with more than 300 organizations, written more than 25 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, and has more than 1,000 hours as a certified leadership and executive coach.
He is the author of the book Unmasking: Toward Authentic Masculinity. His TEDx Talk on preventing sexual violence has been viewed around the world. He is co-host of Student Affairs NOW, the premier podcast for student affairs and higher education.
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