I recently got stuck in my friend's backyard!
I slept over at his house and woke up to go home early in the morning, before anyone was awake. So that I didn't leave the house unlocked I slipped out a side door that I could lock from the inside.
I walked to the gate that led to the driveway. Standing in front of it I had a moment of panic. It had a key lock. Oh Shit, I thought! I can't get back into the house or out the gate.
I looked around to see if there was any other exit. To my dismay the only way out I found was a narrow slit in the top of the gate. I thought that if I got horizontal I could slip through…if I could get to it.
Trying seemed like a better option than throwing rocks at my friend's window. So I stepped on a ledge at the bottom of the fence and hoisted myself up. I ducked my head through the slit of the fence and confirmed that I could fit my whole body through. I wasn't sure how I would get down but I knew I had to keep going.
As I shimmied down the other side of the gate and my feet touched the ground I was exhilarated. I felt lit up and proud of myself.
How does this relate to you and women??
Well, I know those first moments of approaching a woman can feel terrifying, especially when you're not sure how it will go, or if you'll "make it" to the other side.
But so many of my clients have reported that even if a woman doesn't say yes, reaching out and speaking, rather than holding back can be exhilarating in itself. It is confirmation of acting, rather than hiding behind fear or concerns.
When you do something you're not sure you can do, and you make it to the other side, there is often a feeling of accomplishment. There is often a sense of "That wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be." There is often wisdom gained about what you'd do differently next time.
So, wherever you find your next "fence," try sticking your head through the hole ;). Even if it doesn't go how you'd ideally want it to go, taking action brings you a step closer to what you really want.