Dating feels brutal for so many relationship-ready singles, especially over 40. In this episode, Shana James talks with Adam Cohen-Aslatei, CEO of Three Day Rule, about how AI is reshaping modern matchmaking and how AI makes it easier for people to date and find real, emotionally available love. They explore dating burnout, why the apps are failing people, the power of intentional dating, and how AI can even support deeper human connection. A must-listen for those who want to stop unconsciously swiping and start consciously dating and creating meaningful relationships.
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AI Matchmaking: AI Reshapes Dating for Lasting Love: Show Notes
If you’re dating, you may be feeling what so many of my clients say:
Dating feels brutal.
There’s too much swiping and not enough real connection.
I’m tired of trying to match instead of actually getting to meet someone.
And seriously… what is up with the algorithms?
This week on Practicing Love, I talked with Adam Cohen-Aslatei, the CEO of the fastest-growing matchmaking company in the US, Three Day Rule. We explored something I think more people need to hear right now:
How AI could actually help you find love AND bring us back to real, human connection.
Three Day Rule is using AI to find patterns we often can’t (or won’t) see in ourselves. They are finding a way to guide people toward matches that are more compatible than we might choose ourselves. And paradoxically, AI is also guiding people back into their bodies, intuition, and humanity.
In our interview, we talked about:
- Why so many relationship-ready people burn out on dating apps
- The Three Day Rule process for great dating: before, during, and after a date
- How to date in a way where each connection helps you grow, even if it’s not “the one”
- Why attunement and conversational presence are the real foundations of lifelong spark
- How AI is already creating more clarity and less guessing — better photos, identity verification, message responses, and more
- How Three Day Rule blends smart matching with deeper human discernment
- And why the holidays + “cuffing season” are a powerful moment to get more intentional about love
This time of year is the peak of both breakups and newly formed relationships. Many of us long for warmth and closeness.
Let’s make sure you move through it in a way that gets you more connection and play, rather than more pain and grief.
If you’re single, here’s one tip Adam talks about in the episode:
Your mindset is incredibly important. Dating this holiday season will go better for you when you shift from the negative to the positive.
For example, shift from
“My body is older and less desirable,”
to
“I’m older and wiser and a better catch than ever!”
I know you are getting better with age, so practice taking on this mindset!
After you listen, if you haven’t checked out or subscribed to my new YouTube channel, where I talk about how to create intimacy and love that stays alive, check it out here. And let me know if there are topics you want covered!
P.S. I made a video: don’t date after divorce until you do this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_jPsDoVzVM
Seems like a good one to share with a dating episode!
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Bio:
Adam Cohen-Aslatei is the CEO of Three Day Rule, a modern matchmaking and relationship wellness company. With over 15 years in the dating industry, his career includes leadership roles at companies like Bumble and The Meet Group, and founding the dating app S’more before it was acquired. He is leading Three Day Rule’s expansion, which includes launching a new AI-powered app and coaching programs to help singles find meaningful, lasting relationships.
Transcript:
Shana James (00:00)
Welcome to this episode of Practicing Love. I’m your host, Shana James, and I’m so excited to be here today with Adam Cohen Aslatei, the CEO of Three Day Rule — currently the fastest-growing matchmaking company in the U.S.
Today we’re talking about AI matchmaking and how AI is reshaping dating to create deeper, healthier, long-lasting love.
Whether you’re actively dating or already in a relationship, this conversation applies — because we’re exploring love from multiple angles, including how AI might actually help us return to a slower, more intentional, more embodied way of connecting.
Adam and I were chatting before we hit record, and what stood out to me most was this: AI has the potential to help us love better… not faster.
I’m especially curious to understand how you’re using AI in matchmaking to support real relationships — and also hear your best advice for anyone navigating modern dating. Welcome, and thank you so much for being here.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (00:56)
Thank you for having me! I’m excited to get into the nitty-gritty of dating as we head into 2026 — a brand new year and a brand new era.
Shana James (01:05)
Absolutely — your company is growing rapidly, and I believe it’s because you’re approaching dating in a way that actually serves people in a real and authentic way. So tell us more about Three Day Rule.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (01:21)
We do dating differently here — through what we call relationship wellness.
I’ve been in the dating world for nearly 20 years. I actually built my first dating website in grad school for my university, and I never imagined this would become my life’s work — but it truly has become a labor of love.
I enjoy connecting people for friendship, careers, and especially love. And yes, I’ve heard the rumors! They say if you match one couple who gets married, you’re guaranteed a spot in heaven — so I’m building my case!
Shana James (03:07)
I love that. You know I’m biased — coaching your coach is literally what I do!
So much of what keeps singles stuck isn’t a lack of effort — it’s a lack of guidance. No one actually teaches us how to date or build intimacy in a way that leads to something healthy and lasting.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (03:12)
Exactly! Most people don’t “overlook” coaching — they don’t even know what coaching is until someone points it out, kind of like bad breath before mouthwash commercials existed.
Shana James (03:18)
Right — the external part grabs our attention, but underneath, most of us learned versions of love that don’t actually lead to thriving partnerships.
Sometimes anxiety, drama, or relational uncertainty can feel like love — but it doesn’t create emotional safety or long-term intimacy.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (03:58)
That’s the paradox of dating apps. The pro is obvious: endless options at your fingertips. The con is heavy — people start to feel disposable instead of irreplaceable.
We try to “Build-A-Partner” like a childhood toy instead of learning the real skill: how to connect.
Shana James (04:28)
Yes! I once compared it to coffee — how we now customize everything from lattes to playlists, and then subconsciously expect our partners to come equally optimized out of the box.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (04:57)
And because of that culture — and the pressure from media and social platforms — we’ve stopped treating dating as a practice.
When we launched my first dating app, S’more, we asked Gen-Z singles what mattered most. Their answer: speed and stimulation.
Their expectation was a match within 60 seconds of downloading — pure volume over meaningful connection. That’s not dating… that’s dopamine.
Shana James (05:35)
Exactly. And people are deeply disappointed because what they’re craving isn’t more swipes — it’s attunement, safety, intimacy, presence — and to be truly known.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (05:58)
Yes — the emotional cost is real. Years of likes, swipes, and digital micro-rejection start to affect your mental wellbeing and sense of self-worth.
But 2025 has been a turning point. People are realizing apps aren’t working — and there’s a resurgence of interest in real matchmaking, real conversation, real accountability.
Shana James (06:38)
The older model of matchmaking was so surface-level — “you like tennis, he likes tennis.”
But now people are hungering for depth. They want to go slower, communicate better, and find emotional and sexual intimacy that doesn’t flatten over time. They want spark that deepens, not fades.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (06:54)
Exactly — we aim to combine traditional matchmaking with coaching, compassion, and an expansive, vetted network of people already seeking to be matched.
Shana James (07:11)
Yes — and this is also where AI meets human relationship skills. We’ll explore how AI can help people choose better photos, verify identity, communicate more effectively, and date from intention instead of old wounds.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (07:15)
Absolutely. Traditional side first: Three Day Rule has 250,000+ vetted singles in our network.
You don’t need to invest $10,000 for support anymore — our AI-assisted Three Day Rule app gives people access to matchmaking and coaching at a fraction of the cost, with significantly higher connection rates.
Shana James (07:44)
I love that. Now — tell us about the Three Day Rule principle. What does that look like?
Adam Cohen Aslatei (07:55)
It’s a 3-day dating success framework based on what you do:
- the day before (prepare your narrative),
- the day of (regulate your mindset),
- and the day after (reflect and follow through).
The day before, you outline who you are — one or two real stories that reveal your character. It’s not 27 questions. It’s not an interview. It’s a narrative.
Who are you in love? That’s the question, not “who are you supposed to be?”
Shana James (08:31)
It’s so true — guessing kills intimacy, whether it’s dating or sex. We lose connection when we stop speaking up for what we actually want.
Shana James (08:42)
I love that you’re emphasizing uniqueness — dating based on identity and superpowers, not ego and personas. Because real attunement requires truth, not performance.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (09:12)
Yes. On dating apps, we create “ultra-egos” to compensate for insecurity. But eventually, you meet in person — and the mismatch reveals itself.
Which is why so few people ever get a second date.
Shana James (09:23)
Right — the shift is: dating from insecurity leads to burnout. Dating from curiosity leads to connection.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (09:25)
Yes. It’s catfishing, but not always intentional — it’s the gap between who we are online and who we are in a real connection.
When you learn the real skills — presence, attunement, communication, emotional safety, and mutual curiosity — dating gets easier, love gets deeper, and intimacy becomes something that evolves over a lifetime.
Shana James (09:50)
Beautiful. And that’s what we want for you too — love that gets safer, richer, more alive over time, because you’re practicing the skills that keep it alive.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (09:56)
Exactly. The day of your date, you regulate yourself first. Some of us need a Zen state, some need an energetic one — the point is intentional nervous-system self-care.
This is about grounding your presence — not numbing it, not spraying cologne on it, and definitely not shots!
Shana James (10:16)
You’ve got to be conscious.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (10:18)
Relax your body, relax your soul. For me, it’s working out. I love going to the gym — getting away from work and life for an hour just for myself.
For some people it might be meditation, playing with a dog, or dancing. Whatever helps you feel calm and grounded is perfect.
There are also people who naturally have a more low-energy personality — and that’s okay. Sometimes, before a date, you may need to energize yourself so you can show up feeling excited and happy to be there, not dull or checked-out.
Shana James (10:57)
What I’m hearing is you’re not trying to be someone else — you’re preparing yourself to connect, engage, and show up in a way that reveals who you really are. Not the parts that are scared, awkward, or worried about what might happen.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (11:17)
100%. Mindset matters. So many people obsess over how they look on a date — wanting to appear perfect — but forget the mental and emotional part.
The best dates come when you prioritize your inner state over perfection. Wear what makes you comfortable, absolutely — but also know what you want to share and what you want to learn.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (11:45)
When you go on a date, look for three things:
- Two emotional qualities you find attractive,
- One physical trait,
- No red flags.
If you can find those, and nothing feels concerning, go on a second date.
Shana James (12:01)
Yes.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (12:02)
That’s part of the Three Day Rule framework: the day before you prepare. The day of you listen. The day after you reflect.
So once you’re actually on the date, it comes down to listening, responding, and engaging in real conversation — not analysis or interrogation.
Share your story, ask questions about their story, notice if you feel both physical and emotional intrigue — and if it’s not a total train wreck and there are no red flags? Try a second date. They’re almost always better than the first.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (13:25)
Be present. Engage. Let the conversation flow naturally. Ask one or two thoughtful questions that show you’re genuinely interested, like: “What did you mean by that?” or “I relate — can you say more?”
Adam Cohen Aslatei (14:32)
And on day three of the rule — don’t decide instantly that someone is “your person.” If your heart is racing and your body is reacting? That’s often lust, chemistry, or attraction — not partnership.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (14:53)
It’s not bad! It just means the physical attraction is strong, and it’s worth exploring further — thoughtfully.
So: text them something kind, like, “I had a wonderful time getting to know you,” then sleep on it. Wait until morning. Take out a pen and actually look at the pros and cons:
Shana James (15:14)
Right — not getting swayed purely by lust. See what else is there beneath it.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (15:21)
Exactly. If your goal is a long-term relationship and the person is hot but has no job or values that don’t align with yours — don’t open that door.
Let attraction be a bonus, but don’t let it override the deeper questions:
- Are they emotionally connected to themselves and others?
- Are they ambitious, kind, communicative?
- Do your visions of life actually align?
Shana James (15:59)
Look for those deeper qualities.
It wasn’t until I got divorced that I realized something huge: love, lust, and partnership are three different dimensions.
Love and lust are fast and easy to feel — but partnership takes exploration.
Do we want the same pace of life? The same style of life? What happens with kids, money, future plans? Those take time.
Shana James (16:42)
So I tell people: you don’t have to decide immediately. Let yourself get curious and explore the fit over time.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (16:42)
100%. And that’s also what great matchmaking does — ensuring you check out on paper and in person, emotionally and mentally.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (16:42)
Which brings us to the other side of this: AI.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (17:03)
AI is all the buzz right now, so dating apps are adding it — but mostly in rudimentary, shallow ways.
At Three Day Rule, we take a very different approach.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (17:05)
We didn’t build a dating app — we built a matchmaking app.
On apps, everything is self-reported. You filter based on surface qualities. And those qualities aren’t always verifiable.
Shana James (17:25)
AI can true us up — help us see where we might be deceiving ourselves, or saying we want something we’re not actually ready for.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (17:34)
Exactly. Most apps use off-the-shelf AI just to look trendy.
But at Three Day Rule, we built our AI from scratch using 15 years of real client data.
Our users don’t swipe through profiles — they talk to our AI the way they would to a matchmaker.
It asks 150+ in-depth questions in long form. Real situations. Real inner world. Things like: “What would you do if X happened?” instead of “Do you like red or black?”
Shana James (18:00)
Yes. Okay — tell us more. This is so exciting.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (18:16)
We assess emotional intelligence, behavioral patterns, communication, self-awareness — how you actually operate in relationships.
As the AI listens, it mirrors your personality — not a robotic voice like Siri. This is not basic, rudimentary matching.
This is relational attunement at scale.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (19:14)
We built the AI custom. We know what to ask. And matchmakers — human or AI — can tell when someone isn’t telling the full truth.
Shana James (19:15)
It’s true — a real matchmaker knows when you’re leaving something out.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (19:53)
Right. And that’s where AI can genuinely help love and intimacy. Not by rushing connection, but by clarifying truth, alignment, and readiness.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (20:03)
If a matchmaker — human or AI — asks a question and senses something might be off, the AI can detect tonal shifts in your response.
If it feels you’re saying what you think we want to hear instead of the full truth, it will ask you the same question in two additional ways, rooted in real-life situations.
We then compare all three responses to see if they are consistent. That’s how we can assess truth, alignment, and readiness more accurately.
Shana James (20:37)
So that also means the people you’re being matched with are being trued up — the people you’ll interact with are going through the same process, right? That’s incredible.
I think one of the biggest frustrations in online dating is discovering someone isn’t actually who they present themselves to be.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (20:47)
Yes — we’ve essentially created a relational “lie detector.” Not only are we gathering long-form insights, we’re also reading tonality and emotional truth.
Then, from those conversations, we craft a unique bio for each person based on what we know will resonate. You can edit it if you want, but it won’t be generic.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (21:20)
Most dating bios are painfully similar. If you like tacos and long walks on the beach and fitness? Cool — but that doesn’t differentiate you.
Our bios intentionally focus on what makes you different, not what makes you the same.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (21:41)
And on a traditional dating app, you swipe and hope. With our matchmaking app, the AI learns who you are emotionally and relationally — how you operate, what you care about, and what you’re compatible with.
It brings you matches and justifies them one-to-one, explaining why they align with your goals.
Shana James (22:04)
When you say it “justifies” the match, what exactly do you mean?
Adam Cohen Aslatei (22:06)
It explains: “Shana, you need to meet James, and here’s why…”
For example — shared desire for family, shared lifestyle rhythms, emotional priorities, personal history overlaps, and the specific qualities you each expressed that complement one another.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (22:26)
It goes as deep as you go. The more detail you offer, the richer and more precise the matching becomes.
And if you hesitate or reject a match, we ask why so the AI continues learning — not closing the door prematurely, but refining your path forward.
Adam Cohen Aslateი (23:07)
So you’re not being pushed into an instant verdict. You reflect, respond kindly, then reassess the deeper fit — emotional resonance, vision of life, and values alignment.
A good matchmaker — human or AI — won’t let you lose a strong option without at least exploring it mindfully.
Shana James (23:22)
I love that.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (23:22)
Then there is the wing-person mode inside conversations.
Because the AI understands you, and it understands James, it can prompt you to share a meaningful detail or ask a thoughtful question at the right time — sparking an authentic, two-sided conversation instead of, “Hey… What’s up?”
Adam Cohen Aslatei (24:09)
It might say something like, “Tell James the story you shared about your first crush — and why it shaped you.”
That opens a doorway into real emotional knowing… which leads to richer, better dates.
Shana James (24:17)
It’s fascinating. And this is why I still see an essential role for human dating coaches too — helping people develop that long-term capacity for intimacy, not just the moment itself.
But I love how the AI adds a spark so connections aren’t missed prematurely.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (25:21)
Most dating apps create matches where no real conversations ever happen. Conversations begin and end at “Hi, hey, what’s up.”
Generic AI prompts give generic results — but we built the AI to do the opposite. Deep. Specific. Human.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (25:55)
We also built an AI dating coach mode, trained on 15+ years of our matchmaking data, philosophies, books, and podcasts.
It coaches users the way a real relationship coach would — mindset, emotional awareness, communication, embodiment, reflection.
Shana James (26:41)
That’s pretty mind-blowing.
If we step beyond matchmaking for a moment and look at love itself — what’s possible as AI integrates into relationships, intimacy, and being more deeply known and understood by one another?
Adam Cohen Aslatei (27:02)
I think there’s a side that can feel a little sketchy. Everyone saw that movie Her — someone fell in love with a person who wasn’t real. Beautiful? Yes. Weird? Also yes. And a little scary.
The good part was it showed love and intimacy can be learned, not just “happen.”
Shana James (27:09)
I recently rewatched it. It was strange and beautiful — and it also raises the question: where is this all going?
Adam Cohen Aslatei (27:28)
The issue wasn’t learning to love — it was loving someone who wasn’t real.
The takeaway is this: Love is a skill.
Communication is the biggest predictor of relationship failure. Emotional attunement, self-expression, care, and connection — all learnable.
But people only learn when someone shows them: “You’re not fully here. Let’s go deeper. Here’s how.”
Adam Cohen Aslatei (27:48)
Especially for men — women often expect emotional intelligence to match theirs out of the gate. Some men already have those skills, others don’t. That doesn’t make them bad — it means they need a path to develop them.
Shana James (28:21)
Yes — and that’s also what coaching supports: helping someone speak up for their real needs and not fall into “I guess this is all I get” or settling for something less connected than they truly want.
And even when dates don’t work out, it becomes an upward spiral — the next connection is easier, more honest, and more intimate.
Adam Cohen Aslat ei (29:03)
Also — people are overly focused on checkboxes. “Does he check all my boxes?”
But what even are those boxes?
Human beings are not meant to be categorized. People contain layers, contradictions, complexity — which is exactly what AI now helps us understand more truthfully.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (29:35)
We have clients who say, “I don’t date outdoorsy types.”
But… what does “outdoorsy” even mean? You don’t need to camp with him to build a life with him. Let him camp with his friends. Your lives don’t need to overlap in every hobby to align in love.
Shana James (29:41)
Exactly.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (29:44)
Successful relationships happen when both people have full, evolving, independent lives — careers, communities, passions — and come together to support one another while growing in
That is the best case scenario. And we get so many, we get stuck on these details, which are so irrelevant for the time.
Shana James (30:07)
It’s so interesting — when it feels like there are limitless options, people start narrowing the field: “I don’t want to go outside my neighborhood” or “I don’t want to go outside my personality type.” We’ve been conditioned to believe we can find someone who matches us perfectly on paper. But love often happens in the most unexpected places.
Shana James (30:37)
Exactly. Love tends to find us through connection, not categories. It’s deeper than lifestyle, location, or even our usual “type.”
Adam Cohen Aslatei (30:48)
Totally. The distance filter really gets to me. If you believe in soulmates — and I do — I also believe there can be more than one great match for you. Geography shouldn’t be the reason you close the door on love. When you limit your world to one radius, you limit your possibilities.
Shana James (30:56)
Yeah… so true.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (31:04)
In my case, my partner was visiting from New York City on a business trip. We connected, navigated two and a half years long-distance, and eventually I moved to New York — that was my person. I hear stories like this all the time: someone thought they wanted one physical type, and love showed up in a totally different package — like the sporty dream turning into a brilliant, nerdy investment banker.
Shana James (31:13)
I love those stories. Amazing. So great.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (31:29)
And really, what does “type” even mean? It comes down to three things: Do you feel comfortable? Do you feel connected? And are you growing together? When those are present, your idea of physical type shifts. Distance becomes irrelevant. But dating apps have made us hyper-focus on proximity — and we’re missing connections that might be cities or even states away.
Shana James (31:37)
Yes. And the irony is — we’re more globally connected than ever. Maybe one of the hidden gifts of AI is that it opens the map again. It can help us discover love wherever it lives. Of course, real-world logistics like parenting or careers can make long-distance tricky — but there are far more meaningful paths to love than our screens have trained us to see.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (32:24)
I also need to say this about modern dating app culture — it can feel so transactional. One thing goes sideways, and people jump to: “I don’t need this, I’ll find someone else.” The apps tell you that you’re the curator of your love life, which sounds empowering… but it can make us too quick to walk away from growth moments.
Shana James (32:52)
Totally. Yep.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (32:53)
Conflict is actually one of the most important parts of intimacy. It’s where something breaks open — and, if handled well, gets rebuilt stronger.
Shana James (33:01)
Yes, that’s the real test of love: Can we repair together? Can this person stay curious and caring when things get tender or messy? That’s how you know if a relationship has depth and longevity — not whether someone ever stumbles. AI can support the early stages, but deeper triggers and patterns ask for human courage too. We have to be willing to stay in the conversation long enough to truly see each other.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (33:43)
Exactly. The grass really is greener where you water it. Good people say the wrong thing sometimes. A painful comment about your mom, your clothes, or whatever doesn’t automatically mean “he’s not your person.” It means a communication muscle is ready to grow. If you keep running at the first sign of friction, you’ll never get past the front door of a real relationship. Repair is the workout. And it happens to be the season for all of this — it’s cuffing season, plus the holidays and New Year reflections around love, health, and wealth.
Shana James (34:43)
Right — love, health, and wealth are the big three this time of year.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (34:45)
Cuffing season usually kicks off late Halloween — early November — and runs through February or March. People often couple up because it’s cold and nobody wants to be alone. Interestingly, November and December are also major breakup months — many of us don’t want to bring unstable relationships into family gatherings.
Shana James (34:51)
So interesting. Yep. Makes perfect sense.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (35:01)
Exactly. There’s a mass exhale of endings, then a rush for warmth. But cuffing season can be fertile ground for something real. The key is knowing what you want and communicating it early — long-term? casual? just fun? When both people are clear, there’s so much less disappointment and misalignment.
Shana James (35:19)
Yes — without that clarity, a letdown can feel like evidence that love isn’t possible, instead of simply the wrong timing or mismatch. Choosing someone aligned with you is radically different than choosing someone to fill the cold.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (35:30)
So true. So step one is know what you want. Step two is be intentional. Don’t just pick a warm body because he’s cute — if there’s nothing else there, it’s not worth the snuggle. Buy a pillow. Adopt a bear. Seriously. Step three — join a matchmaking database like 3 Day Rule. It’s free to join, you get vetted by a real matchmaker, and if you match one of their clients, the intro is free. Step four — start saying yes to in-person moments again: lobby parties, work parties, Friendsgiving, holiday gatherings where everyone brings someone new — go where humans actually are.
Shana James (35:38)
Yes. Go where people are. Or create the gathering yourself.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (35:59)
Right — throw the dinner, host the party, invite the extras. Step five: explore AI matchmaking. It’s a powerful complement to real human support.
Shana James (36:23)
Exactly.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (36:42)
Step six: check in with yourself. Casual winter romance doesn’t mean co-holiday integration. Keep it honest: if it’s bedroom-fun only, don’t move it into your social or family ecosystem. Let it be what it is.
Shana James (37:02)
Yes — love that distinction. Great point.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (37:09)
Exactly. And one more thing — the holidays are an underrated meet-cute moment. People are out shopping, their guard is down, they’re in gifting mode. Talk in line. Ask for sweater advice. Lead with a compliment. It works.
Shana James (37:23)
Love it. My favorite.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (38:19)
Right — AI matchmaking is smart, practical, and economical. And it supports connection, not transaction.
Shana James (38:41)
Yes — keep it in the bedroom if it’s meant to stay there, and don’t mistake casual for connected.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (38:45)
Exactly. Snuggle smart.
Shana James (39:18)
Thank you for being here and opening this conversation about modern love, matchmaking, AI, connection, conflict, and possibility. This has been such a rich and inspiring dialogue. For anyone listening — where can they find more about 3 Day Rule?
Adam Cohen Aslatei (39:36)
You can join their network or explore their white-glove private matchmaking. The AI matchmaking app was built by 60 real matchmakers and took over 2 years to develop. You can find Adam on Instagram or email him directly.
Shana James (39:50)
Wonderful. And we’ll link everything below. Thank you again.
Adam Cohen Aslatei (40:04)
ThreeDayRule. com and I’m happy to share more of our white glove service with you or more of our dating and matchmaking application with you as well.
Good luck in 2026. Try something new. If what you’ve tried in the past hasn’t worked, don’t do it again. Do something new. Contact me and let’s find you some love in the new year.
Shana James (40:24)
I love this and I really look forward to seeing where AI matchmaking is going, eand I have a good feeling about this, that people are actually going to be able to find more love and keep it alive.
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