We talk about the moments when anger builds within us, moments when a partner pulls away in anger, the downward spiral that can ensue, and how to find your way back to connection — even in the heat of the moment!
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Anger in Relationships – How to Stay Connected When You’re Upset: Show Notes
Anger can be powerful and sometimes, scary and hurtful when it comes from someone we love.
It’s not that it’s wrong, and it may not even be “too much”… but because most of us had childhoods where anger was unconscious, we were never taught how to express it consciously, and meet someone else’s anger without shutting down, defending, or running away.
This week on Practicing Love, I talk with Rebecca Greene — licensed social worker, and the creator of Whiny Paluza, a blog, podcast, and community for women navigating the chaos of marriage and motherhood.
We talk about the moments when anger builds within us, moments when a partner pulls away in anger, the downward spiral that can ensue, and how to find your way back to connection — even in the heat of the moment! She reveals her struggles and what she practices with her husband.
In our conversation we explore:
- Why anger can be misunderstood, and how to share your truth with kindness and without losing your power
- The shift that helps you stay open to another’s upset
- What not to say if you want your partner to actually listen
- A simple way to replace blame
- What’s really underneath your anger — and how to name it
- How to choose grace, compassion, and curiosity rather than expect perfection
This is a raw, real, and hopeful episode about what it looks like to stay in love and stay true to yourself, when you’re mad, flooded, or feeling ignored, or when your partner brings anger to you. We also explore how to ask for what you need in the midst of it all.
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Rebecca Greene, MSW, LCSW‑R, is the licensed clinical social worker and creator behind Whiny Paluza — a blog, podcast, support community, and online summit. The wife and mother of three, she brings her family therapy background to navigating the messy magic of modern marriage, parenting, and connection.
Transcript:
Shana James (00:02)
Hello and welcome to this episode of Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40. I’m giggly with excitement today to be here with a dear, lifelong friend—Rebecca Greene. And when I say lifelong, I mean it! We were born on the same day, in the same town—maybe even the same hospital.
Rebecca Greene (00:23)
Yes! I meant to double-check that before today. But I think we were.
Shana James (00:33)
I can’t remember if it was the same hospital, but definitely the same day and town—and we grew up together. It’s such a delight to have you here. Every time I’m with you, I feel how big your heart is. I’m excited for you to share not only about your relationship, but also the consciousness and intention you bring to it—and the struggles too.
That’s the point of this podcast, after all—to talk about the real challenges of love and how we’re practicing. Because as much as I’d love to say we work through our stuff and then everything flows easily… that’s just not how it works. We keep evolving. And I’m excited to talk about anger in relationships, and how to stay connected when you’re upset.
So for listeners who don’t know, Rebecca is the creator of Whinypaluza—a blog, podcast, online support group, and more. She also has a master’s in social work.
So far, I’ve mostly interviewed experts in psychology and spirituality, and I’m excited for today’s episode because Rebecca brings not just professional insight, but personal depth and vulnerability. Thank you so much for being here!
Rebecca Greene (01:46)
Thank you for having me! I’m so excited to be here and talk with you. I had to stop myself from chatting too much before we started recording—I could talk to you all day!
Shana James (01:58)
I feel the same! Okay, before we dive into love and relationship, can you give us a quick intro to Whinypaluza? Because the name’s not exactly self-explanatory…
Rebecca Greene (02:11)
Totally! Whinypaluza has evolved a lot over the years. I’m a social worker and used to do family and couples therapy before I had kids. Once I became a mom, I wanted to find a way to keep working while staying home with my children—something that fit our family life.
So it started as a blog—Whinypaluza. com—where I’d vent my stress and share insights from my degree to support other moms. I wanted to help women feel less alone. I felt alone, especially when I first became a mom, and I thought: “Why isn’t there a space for this?”
Now it’s expanded into a podcast, a vlog, books, a newsletter, and an online support group. I call myself a “new age social worker” because I’m always adapting. It just keeps evolving—and I love it!
Shana James (03:43)
A new age social worker—I love that. It is a new age. We’re asking so much more of ourselves in parenting and relationships, and while we’re capable of more, we often weren’t given the tools. So we’re building the map as we go.
Rebecca Greene (04:13)
Exactly! We’re changing with the times—and so is the field of social work. It’s amazing to think we can build meaningful careers and support systems online now.
Shana James (04:24)
It really is. I love working with people I’d never be able to reach otherwise.
Rebecca Greene (04:30)
Right? I’m here in Buffalo, and you’re—wait, are you still in Oregon?
Shana James (04:34)
Yep, I’m in Oregon.
Rebecca Greene (04:35)
So yeah, we’re literally across the country—and here we are talking. It’s amazing.
Shana James (04:41)
It really is. Okay—tell us about your relationship. I know you and your husband Seth have been together a long time. I grew up with him too! But tell us the story—how did it start?
Rebecca Greene (05:02)
Did you know Seth in high school?
Shana James (05:05)
I did!
Rebecca Greene (05:07)
Okay, well I didn’t talk to him once in high school. Isn’t that funny? I knew who he was—he was a grade below us—but we never spoke. Fast forward years later… I was at temple one day, feeling kind of sad watching all the families, thinking, “I want that—why don’t I have that?”
And then, the next time I went to temple, Seth was sitting behind me. He followed me to the bathroom after the service, gave me his card, and we reminded each other who we were. He told me to call him, but I was too nervous. So I emailed him. And he wrote back saying, “Here’s my number—call me tonight.” And I was like, “Greene… you are doing this!”
So I called. We talked every night. And being the social worker I am, I basically interviewed him! That was 21 years ago.
Shana James (06:33)
Amazing. I love that you took initiative—and you were thorough!
Rebecca Greene (06:35)
Totally. And before I met Seth, I’d been in a really unhealthy relationship. I started writing a list—what I didn’t want, and what I was looking for instead. I got super specific.
Shana James (07:05)
I love it. Can you share a few things that were on your list? I imagine it wasn’t all “tall, dark, and handsome.”
Rebecca Greene (07:20)
Ha, no. My list was about emotional and relational qualities. Like:
- He’s giving.
- He cares about my feelings.
- He shares my values and cares about my religion—which my ex didn’t.
- He wants kids.
- He lives in Buffalo, because I didn’t want to move away from my family.
- He loves deep conversations.
- He enjoys spending time with me.
- He’s willing to compromise.
Basically, I turned everything I didn’t get in my last relationship into a vision of what I wanted—and Seth checked all the boxes, and more. I really feel like I manifested him.
Shana James (08:07)
I love that. And truly, how could either of us be with someone who doesn’t love deep conversation?
Rebecca Greene (08:16)
Exactly. And you know what’s amazing? Even 21 years later, I appreciate him more every day—because we both know what it’s like to not have this. We were both in bad relationships before, and I think that makes us really value what we have.
Just yesterday, I told him, “Do you know I praise myself every day for choosing you?” I almost married someone else—and that would’ve been a disaster. So 21 years later I look back and think, “Thank you for making the right choice.”
Shana James (09:18)
Amazing. Okay, let’s talk a little about a struggle—and maybe that ties into the relationship you had before Seth, or anger in relationships, and staying connected when you’re upset.
What’s something you’re still practicing now, even in a healthy relationship?
Rebecca Greene (09:51)
And you know this—you bring yourself into every relationship, right? No matter how awesome your husband is, you still have your own stuff to work on. My youngest is 12, and she once said to me, “And you’re a therapist?” [laughs]
Shana James (09:57)
“Wherever you go, there you are!”
Shana James (10:14)
What was one of the moments she said that?
Rebecca Greene (10:18)
Okay, so here’s the theme—it comes up in every relationship: kids, husband, parents, friends. I practice this every day, sometimes successfully, sometimes not—staying calm and not reacting. I want to be responsive. I want to be calm. I don’t want to be reactive and angry.
But I get pissed. I jump. I’m so fiery. And my daughter Lily? She’s me—but spicier. I see myself in her so much. She’s sweet, but she’s also spicy.
Shana James (10:57)
Oh my gosh, I’ve never seen your fiery side!
Rebecca Greene (11:16)
My spiciness evolved over the years. I think I used to be too nice and overcompensated, because I felt taken advantage of in that relationship I told you about. I felt so walked all over that I built up this strength—like, you’re not going to mess with me.
So now, in a fight, I’ll say to Seth, “You don’t scare me,” or “You’re not going to win this argument.” I do not recommend either of those. I’m just being honest about what I still do wrong.
Shana James (11:50)
I love that you’re being human with this. You’re not saying, “I’ve totally overcome it and never say those things anymore.” You’re saying, “I’m practicing.” And I imagine when those things happen, there’s some repair—you acknowledge, “That wasn’t my best.”
Rebecca Greene (12:19)
Exactly. I got pissed about something the other day. It wasn’t even about Seth—it was about someone else. I got really angry. But I took a breath and started thinking it through. Like, maybe it wasn’t really their fault. Maybe this happened, or that happened.
And Seth was like, “Holy crap, you recovered so much faster than you normally do.” I was like, there’s some growth, right? I still got pissed. I still reacted. But I came back from it more quickly.
Shana James (12:57)
Right. It’s not that we don’t have feelings. It’s how we handle them. Can we pause, regulate, maybe self-soothe, get curious like you did, and wonder if maybe it’s not exactly what it seemed at first?
Rebecca Greene (13:16)
Yes! I heard an expert on a podcast say something that really stuck with me—and you just used the word curious, which reminded me. He said, your partner is never intentionally trying to hurt you. If you come from that mindset…
Shana James (13:39)
Yes.
Rebecca Greene (13:44)
…then instead of thinking, “Seth’s being a jerk,” I can remember: He’s not trying to hurt me. And he’ll even say, “I’m never trying to hurt you. That’s never my goal.” But sometimes I interpret something he does as intentional, like he meant to piss me off. So if I can stop and remind myself—he didn’t mean it—it really helps.
Shana James (14:05)
Yes. I talk with clients about assuming the best about our partners and then getting curious, instead of assuming the worst. The worst is, “You’re trying to hurt me,” or “You’re trying to get back at me.” And to be honest, there may be younger parts of ourselves that do want to make someone else hurt like we’re hurting.
Rebecca Greene (14:32)
Yes!
Shana James (14:33)
But underneath all that, if we know we’re in a mostly healthy relationship, there’s a part of our partner that loves us, that doesn’t want to see us hurting. They may just be trying to get their own needs met in a clumsy way. So how do we stay curious and see deeper than the reactions?
I was working with a couple on this yesterday—can you see the part underneath the reaction and have compassion? It’s not easy.
Rebecca Greene (15:07)
It’s not easy. And I’ve told Seth—this isn’t on him, it’s on me—but I’ve explained that when I get angry, if he comes back at me with anger, it fuels my fire. But if he responds with kindness or hurt—like if I see that I hurt him—it totally deflames me. But if he gets hot too, then I escalate.
Shana James (15:19)
Yes.
Rebecca Greene (15:35)
Again, that’s not his fault. That’s on me. But my fire—those angry reactions—is something I have to work on every day.
Shana James (15:48)
Yes. And how beautiful that you’re clear it’s not his responsibility. And still, I’ve been reading a lot about how we’re in a shared nervous system, not just two individuals. So if we can deescalate with compassion or curiosity instead of building walls and attacking each other’s defenses, it goes so much better.
Rebecca Greene (16:17)
So much better. Yes.
Shana James (16:19)
Tell me how those conversations go. I think people would appreciate hearing that, because it doesn’t sound like you’re demanding. You’re acknowledging your part and your anger or upset, but also asking if he’s willing to meet you in a different way.
Rebecca Greene (16:38)
Yes. So when we’re calm—I’ll go back to in-the-moment next—but when we’re calm, I’ll say, “I take full responsibility for how angry I got. I’m working on that every day. I want to be a better wife to you. I always want to grow and do better.”
And then I’ll say, “Can I give you some advice on how to handle me?” Because sometimes he’ll say, “What do you want me to say?”
Shana James (16:44)
That’s a great question.
Rebecca Greene (17:06)
He’ll say, “Give me the script, Rebecca. What do you want?” And I’ll say, “I want you to recognize that every time I’m angry, I’m also hurt. I’m sad about something.” And if I were crying, he’s amazing with that. But if I’m angry… well, we’re working on this.
Shana James (17:48)
Yeah. A lot of people have a really hard time with anger. Especially if we’ve experienced anger in our families as blame, attack, or shutdown. Anger can be a hard emotion for many of us to meet with compassion.
Rebecca Greene (18:04)
Well, if he feels criticized, he gets defensive. That’s our pattern: he feels criticized, gets defensive, and then I get angry that he got defensive. Did you follow that?
Shana James (18:30)
Yes. And the fact that you know this pattern—that you’re tracking it—is powerful. A lot of people just feel stuck in something without being able to name what’s happening, but you’ve really identified it.
Rebecca Greene (18:43)
Yes, oh my gosh, yes. I keep saying, “If you realize I’m coming from a hurt place, you’re not going to get angry at me. And I’ll come down much quicker, and we can have a productive conversation.” But if he comes back at me with anger, I just get angrier.
And I tell him, “I’m not putting this on you. It’s my responsibility that I got angry.” I always make that clear.
And I’m a therapist, so I’m like, “Okay, what are you going to work on? What am I going to work on?” We try to identify it together. We’ve even had code words. Like we used “pickle.” If I’m getting angry and he’s getting defensive, we’re supposed to throw out the word. We’ve used it a couple of times, but I think the most important thing is identifying what’s happening quickly.
And then starting over. Even saying, “I got mad—let me start over.”
Shana James (19:47)
Exactly. And I love that you’re saying, “This is my responsibility too.” Then asking, “Hey, can you help me with this one?” Or, “What do you need when you feel criticized?” That kind of question opens up space to love each other better in those moments.
Rebecca Greene (20:08)
Absolutely, yes. And when he gets defensive, I have to recognize that it means he’s feeling hurt or criticized. So it really does go both ways.
We’ve had some success in the moment. Sometimes I’ll be bratty and say, “You’re doing it! I’m angry and now you’re getting defensive.” And he’s been able to stop and say, “Whoa, I’m being defensive.” And I’ve said, “Whoa, I’m being too reactive.
So we’ve been able to stop ourselves mid-pattern. Not every time—but more often. And even when it does play out, we always circle back to talk about it afterward.
Shana James (20:55)
Amazing.
Shana James (21:05)
And that’s such an important point. Sometimes people expect to fix things instantly. But I tell clients: if you used to explode 10 out of 10 times, and now it’s 5 out of 10, that’s progress. You have to zoom out to see the pattern shift over time—not judge each incident as a failure.
Rebecca Greene (21:30)
I love that. Yes! Oh my God. And he hates when I say “always.” He’s like, “I don’t always do anything. Do I really? If I always did that, you wouldn’t be here.” That’s one of his famous lines.
Shana James (21:47)
Right—and I’m sure you love hearing that in the moment, right?
But it’s a good reminder—if we can stay humble. And I often say to couples, “Let’s look at what’s happening right now, instead of bringing up every past example,” because people just can’t hear that.
Once we start lobbing past resentments into the present, everyone gets defensive.
Rebecca Greene (22:19)
Exactly. Let’s be in this moment. What’s upsetting us right now—not everything that’s built up over the last month.
Shana James (22:27)
Right. Because when we actually slow down and work through just this one moment, it often creates a ripple effect. It can heal other moments, too. But if we try to address everything, it just turns into a tangle.
Rebecca Greene (22:45)
I love that. That’s really good. Great therapy right there. We’ll just call you next time we fight.
Shana James (22:51)
Yeah—I do that! It’s part of what I offer: “Okay, we’re in it—what do we do now?”
Rebecca Greene (22:57)
Oh my gosh. Sometimes if we could just breathe… We’ve even said, “Let’s separate for 10 minutes. I’ll see you in a bit.”
Shana James (23:09)
That’s so good. The Gottmans talk about it—other therapists, too. When we’re in that primal brain or fight-or-flight state, nothing productive happens. Taking a break is so powerful.
Rebecca Greene (23:28)
I’ve had to explain that to him, because he’s very intellectual. I’ve had to say, “When I’m upset, my thinking brain leaves the building. You expect your smart wife to show up—but she’s gone. You have to wait for her to come back.”
Shana James (23:37)
I know that about him.
Shana James (23:49)
She went on a little shopping trip or something. She’s out.
Rebecca Greene (23:55)
Exactly—she’s gone. I get emotionally flooded. It’s that whole nervous system regulation thing. I know when I’m that overwhelmed, I can’t think rationally. So I’ll say, “Seth, I’m so emotional right now, I can’t respond. I’ve got nothing.”
Shana James (24:19)
That is mastery—to be able to name what’s happening instead of just acting it out.
Rebecca Greene (24:24)
I’m trying! See? I’m practicing, everyone.
Shana James (24:27)
Yeah. And how do you, on your own—not just with Seth—cultivate that capacity? The ability to pause and breathe?
Rebecca Greene (24:40)
I’ve gotten so much better with self-talk. I’m aware now of what I’m telling myself all day long—not just when I’m with Seth or the kids. Even when I’m doing work, I pay attention: am I beating myself up or encouraging myself?
So because I practice that self-awareness all day, it shows up in arguments too. When we’re fighting, I know exactly what I’m telling myself—and I can shift it.
Shana James (25:24)
I love that. We’re both born on the same day and we’re both practicers.
People ask, “Do I really have to work on this all the time?” And I wouldn’t say it’s work all the time, but the more you practice awareness and healthy habits in everyday life, the better it goes when the heat is on.
Rebecca Greene (25:50)
Totally. And I noticed—I was offering so much love and encouragement to everyone else, but in my own head, I was being mean to myself. And I had to stop and ask, “Why are you being so kind to others but not to yourself? You don’t deserve that.”
Shana James (26:12)
Yes.
Rebecca Greene (26:17)
So that’s where it began—I started to recognize that I was not being nice to myself.
Shana James (26:22)
Would you say that in those moments when you weren’t being kind to yourself, you were more likely to be reactive or fiery?
Rebecca Greene (26:30)
That’s an excellent question. Yes, 100%. It ties into self-esteem. The better you feel about yourself, the better your self-talk, the better your reactions.
Shana James (26:47)
Right, because then you’re not trying to prove anything like, “I’m not a jerk” or “I’m not this or that.” You already know it, so there’s no need to fight about it.
Rebecca Greene (26:57)
Exactly. I don’t have to say, “I’m a strong woman and you will not walk all over me,” because I already know that. I don’t need him to prove it in the conversation.
Shana James (27:07)
Yes! And that takes the weight off the conversation.
Rebecca Greene (27:13)
Yes. I’ve never quite put two and two together like that. You’re making me think over here. I don’t think people—well, maybe they do—but it doesn’t matter if you’re an expert in anything, you still need experts to talk to about yourself.
Shana James (27:31)
Yes, and it’s still harder to see your own patterns than someone else’s.
Rebecca Greene (27:39)
So true. Oh my gosh, it would be so cool to have you watch an argument and give us feedback. That would be so fun.
Shana James (27:50)
I would love that! My heart is so in this. I just love helping people actually feel more love and give more love—through understanding themselves and each other.
Rebecca Greene (28:06)
Yes! And the more I love myself, which I’ve learned to do, the more I can love him better.
Shana James (28:11)
Yes, yes. Do you have any other self-regulating practices—like meditation or breathing?
Rebecca Greene (28:22)
That’s what I need to do more of. But I do have hobbies that regulate me. I walk every single day, and I can’t believe the mental benefits. It clears my head, helps me think better. And I read every day too—those are my two favorite coping tools. They help me show up better for my family.
Shana James (28:59)
I love that you know that—these aren’t just hobbies, they help you relate better.
Rebecca Greene (29:11)
100%. We have to make time for ourselves. I didn’t understand that 18 years ago when I had Max. If I had, I would’ve been a better mom for him.
Shana James (29:23)
Yes, and we have to give ourselves compassion. I get up an hour and a half before I wake up Ari so I can do a little yoga, a little meditation, and listen to something inspiring—15 minutes each. If I don’t regulate myself, I get really thrown off. Her nervous system is so different from mine—she’s incredibly fiery.
Rebecca Greene (30:03)
Oh yeah. Parenting is a whole different thing. We’re talking about marriage, but honestly, Seth is easy compared to my youngest child. She is my greatest teacher. I’m becoming a better person because of her.
Shana James (30:21)
Same. Ari is 13—sounds like they’re around the same age. They’re giving us a run for our money!
Rebecca Greene (30:32)
Hormones! Oh my gosh. It’s such a hard age. I have a 16 and an 18-year-old, and seventh grade was the hardest with both of them.
Shana James (30:55)
That gives me hope. Are we going to make it?
Rebecca Greene (30:57)
I think so. Anyone listening—seventh grade is rough!
Shana James (31:17)
It’s wild. I tell people, “It’s brutal,” and they say, “Seventh grade was the worst for me too.” As parents, we often relive our own dynamics, plus we’re feeling our kid’s dysregulation and trying to help them through it.
And when I learn to be more patient and less reactive with her, I get to bring that same growth into my romantic partnership too.
Rebecca Greene (32:00)
Yes, we’re living it together, Shana.
Shana James (32:05)
Totally. And you’re so committed to growth, which is beautiful. If you’re listening and you haven’t thought about who you want to be—or how you want to grow—for yourself or your relationship, it’s a great journal prompt or meditation. What would you add for someone who’s struggling with what you’ve gone through?
Rebecca Greene (32:47)
There are two words that are new for me: compassion and grace.
I grew up being really hard on myself. My motivation came from within. It wasn’t my parents—it was me being brutal with myself, especially around grades. And that carried into adulthood.
What I’ve realized is that there was very little compassion or grace for myself. If I messed up, I’d beat myself up. If Seth messed up, I’d beat him up—not physically, but emotionally. I expected perfection from both of us.
Shana James (33:37)
Yeah.
Rebecca Greene (33:51)
And Seth would say, “I’m not perfect.” That really woke me up. That word—perfect—helped me realize how hard I was being on myself, and how that was spilling over onto him. It wasn’t fair to either of us. So now, compassion and grace are becoming guiding words.
Shana James (34:17)
Mm. And grace—say more about that.
Rebecca Greene (34:26)
Grace means letting things go. For example, someone recently took something away from my daughter that she should’ve had, but they didn’t have all the information. I chose not to be angry—I gave them grace. They didn’t know.
And I’m doing that more often. Instead of reacting in anger, I give Seth grace. He’s doing the best he can. We’re both human. Why expect perfection?
Shana James (35:23)
Yes. That’s so important. We often carry expectations—maybe because we were loved that way, or because we weren’t and we longed for it. And then we demand that kind of perfect love from our partner.
To show up human and offer grace—that’s everything.
Rebecca Greene (35:52)
Yes, and something I’m really trying to teach other women is this: If I can love and parent myself—give myself what I need—then I don’t need him to do it all for me. Why should he have to carry all that?
When we meet our own needs, it feels incredible. And we stop demanding so much from our partner.
Shana James (36:20)
Yes. And that doesn’t mean we have to be islands or that we don’t need anything, but it does take the edge off. We stop being so reactive or disappointed because we’re already filling some of that from within.
Rebecca Greene (36:38)
Yes, yes. Like expecting him to praise everything I do. Hello!
Shana James (36:47)
It’s a fun fantasy though. And if you bring consciousness to it, you could even say, “My gosh, would you praise me for a minute? Today, will you just praise everything I do?” Versus expecting it and then getting pissed off when it doesn’t happen.
Rebecca Greene (37:04)
Right? I’ll notice he’ll say, “My gosh, thank you so much for this wonderful dinner.” And I’m like, wow, that feels incredible. I really do love feeling love and appreciation. But I can also tell myself, “You just made a really good dinner for your family. Good job.”
Shana James (37:14)
It feels so good.
Shana James (37:28)
Yeah, kick ass! You did an amazing job. I love that. Thank you so much for being willing to be the wise woman you are—while also being vulnerable, humble, and honest. Because we all do this.
This podcast, for me, was born out of the realization that after I got divorced, I said to myself, “I’m not going to be in a relationship again until I won’t lose myself.”
And then I realized: That’s funny. I can’t practice not losing myself if I’m just keeping myself alone.
So I had to get back out there—I had to practice this with people.
Rebecca Greene (38:09)
I love that. We have to practice. Every day. Yes.
Shana James (38:12)
Yeah. And it doesn’t have to feel like a chore.
Rebecca Greene (38:19)
No, it’s natural. It just becomes a habit. It becomes part of your day.
Shana James (38:26)
Yes. Thank you for talking about anger in relationships, and how to stay connected when you’re upset.
.Anything else you want to say? And then tell us where people can find Whinypaluza.
Rebecca Greene (38:36)
I just love talking to you. We need to do this more often! So, where can you find me? All the places:
On Instagram: @whinypaluzamom
On Facebook: Whinypaluza
On TikTok: @whinypaluzamom
And whinypaluza.com is the easiest way to find everything.
Plus, I have books on Amazon!
Shana James (39:11)
Amazing. Do your books focus on different topics?
Rebecca Greene (39:14)
Yes! I brought one here so I wouldn’t forget—Whinypaluza Gets Less Whiny is the second one. For anyone watching, it’s filled with parenting and marriage topics. The first book is just called Whinypaluza, and it’s similar—different topics to help moms and families.
Shana James (39:32)
Amazing. Thank you so much for being here. Definitely check out her blog, podcast, books—all of it.
And even if you’re a man listening, you can get so much out of hearing how women think. These insights can help you have more compassion and grace for your partner. Understanding those deeper struggles goes a long way.
Thank you so much for what you’re doing.
Rebecca Greene (40:02)
Thank you for having me.
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