Don't Settle For Less
Feel Confident and Relaxed as You Find The Right Match For You, Without the Rollercoaster of Anxiety, or Fear of Rejection
Are you ready for dating to be easier and more exciting?
You're not alone if dating feels like a rollercoaster that you'd rather get off of.
Most of my clients come to me feeling dragged around by dating -- worrying as they wait for texts, wondering if they'll be rejected by someone they really like, and hating the part where they worry about hurting someone's feelings. Not to mention the confusion of trying to figure out whether someone is who they say they are.
With Coaching for Dating you can find the right person with more ease and less effort. You'll learn to know quickly whether someone is a match for you, and avoid the red flags that make dating frustrating and depressing.
If you’re…
- Not meeting people you’re attracted to
- Feeling insecure that the people you want won’t want you
- Frustrated by not having the love or sex life you want
- Afraid to open up to a new person (especially if you’re getting older)
Or you're…
- Tired of feeling like you have to prove yourself
- Not sure what you want as you start dating after years or decades
- Feeling trapped in old habits that make dates disappointing
- Considering giving up on love or online dating
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Before I met Shana I was dealing with heartbreak. I was confused and needed help understanding women. With Shana’s coaching I learned to connect with women in a deeper way. One woman found the new way I listened and paid attention so sexy that we fell in love. My relationships with my family and close friends improved too. – Andrew
Through coaching for dating, my clients say they are relieved as dates become more fun, communication becomes easier, and attraction happens more naturally. This can happen for you too!
You don't have to play games, learn lines, or follow ridiculous rules. I support my clients to be themselves, without needing to fake or hide anything. My single clients say things like:
“People started approaching me, out of the blue. I didn’t feel like I was doing anything. It's like I became magnetic.” - Randall
“I was doing less than ever and people wanted me more than ever.” - Jeff
Coaching for dating decreases stress and anxiety, and makes it easier to build attraction and trust, so people want more dates and a deeper connection with you.
It also gives you the foundations to build healthy, exciting relationships from the start, so you avoid devastation later.
What are the benefits of Coaching for Dating?
Coaching for Dating decreases your stress and anxiety, and helps you create connections where you may have pushed people away. My clients have been blown away as they’ve found they are more desired, appreciated and supported. Through coaching thousands of people, I know it's possible for you!
You can avoid the breakdowns and breakups that are so common in dating these days.
"Before working with Shana, I felt I had to conceal my sexuality with women to not offend them. It’s like I’ve progressed 20 years in a few weeks. I’ve never felt so good about myself, or so secure. My new girlfriend and I made wild, passionate love until 4am last night. I love how I feel now. The money spent was a bargain." – Joe
Why spend your time and money on Coaching for Dating?
Most of us were never taught to date in a way that is satisfying, supportive and sexy for the long-term.
We become adults with very little education about love, communication, or sex. This leads to painful misunderstandings, disconnection, and heartbreak. But these can be avoided and resolved through coaching for dating!
If you have questions about dating, or find yourself stuck in unsatisfying patterns in your dating or sex life, then you’re in the right place…
“I have never talked about things so freely and confidently, from the very beginning of dating and then as I deepened a relationship. I feel closer and more understood than ever. I had no idea it could be this good!” - S
Coaching for dating is for you if you want to ...
- Feel more confident and relaxed, in every step of dating – from meeting to sex
- Be yourself and hear more people YES to you
- Know and ask for what you want, without worrying about a date's judgment
- Show attraction without fearing it’s giving up your power
- Have a love and sex life that’s connected and exciting
I know dating can be easier, and you can find someone who can be a truly supportive and loving partner.
I work with people who realize that power lies in taking responsibility for our part in unsatisfying dynamics. We bring curiosity and compassion to create the shifts that bring you more of the dates and sex you want.
If this sounds like you and you’re ready for less struggle and more ease, book a free Effortless Love and Sex Consultation here so I can support you to create an amazing love life:
Note: Many people think they shouldn’t need relationship help, but remember it’s not your fault that we aren’t taught how to do this. There’s no shame in getting help. Make it easier on yourself by leaning into the decades of experience I’ve accumulated.
And honestly, elite athletes and successful business people hire coaches, so don’t believe the lie that you’d only need a coach if there was something wrong with you. Even I still see coaches or therapists when I need support!
We’ll pinpoint what gets in the way of the love and sex you want, and find your unique path to more love, connection, and passion.
Introducing Your Coach for Dating…
Hi, I’m Shana James.
For as long as I can remember I wanted to understand love and relationships. Growing up, I was so uninspired by the relationships around me that I made a vow to do it differently.
I got my Masters in Psychology, and did almost a decade of personal growth work before I got married. I was sure I knew what it took to make it. But we didn’t.
It was incredibly humbling and heartbreaking. But it also catalyzed the biggest growth of my life. I had a chance to figure out how to be true to myself, rather than trying to make others happy.
In the 20 years I’ve coached people on their love lives, I also use mine as a giant experiment, learning to love as best I can, and bringing those learnings to my clients.
I have dated in every decade of my life and have learned what creates disconnection and distrust in relationships, and how to build trust and passion on dates.
It feels like a huge honor to help people find and keep love alive, with ease and self-love. I specialize in Coaching for Dating in midlife, because of the extra challenges in starting over later in life.
“I help you discover your authentic strengths and super powers, so you can date with less stress and more ease.
As a translator between men and women, I make communicating easier, which means attraction can spark and trust can build.”
- Shana James
Through Coaching for Dating you'll...
- Flirt more naturally and not have to worry whether you're doing it “right”
- Stop having a mind clouded by your inner critic and fears about your desirability.
- Make consent and authenticity a way to be sexier and more desired
- Gain clarity about red flags, so you don’t waste time with people who aren’t a match
- Talk about sex and intimacy in a way that makes it more likely to happen, rather than kill your chances
- Attract more people who are a great fit for you, and hear more YESes.
Through Coaching for Dating you'll gain...
♥ Clarity: Have a deeper understanding of your needs and desires, and how to express them freely, so you get more of what you want
♥ Confidence: Cultivate an unshakable belief in, and freedom to be, yourself -- the foundation for healthy, loving, sexy connection
♥ Healing and Growth: Resolve emotional wounds that kept you stuck or frustrated, so you can feel more loved, and love more
♥ Empowerment: Know how to take care of and stay true to yourself, while creating connections.
♥ Conscious Communication: Decrease misunderstandings and conflicts, and have meaningful conversations that bring you closer than ever
♥ True Intimacy: Learn to reveal and receive another's vulnerability, so you are loved for ALL of you and have a deeply meaningful connection
♥ Partnership: Be truly supported, understood, and loved in a way that allows you to shine in all areas of life, and advocate for your needs
♥ A More Connected and Exciting Sex Life: Learn to talk about and co-create sexual experiences that are exciting, nourishing, and connected
“Before Shana, women were strange creatures I was trying to learn to ‘control.’ I had a successful life but women did not make sense to me. Shana helped me understand women. Now I more easily meet, connect with, and date incredible women." – Kreso
Why Coaching for Dating is Especially Important in Midlife
Midlife brings new challenges. Whether you’re starting over after a divorce or a breakup, or revitalizing a long-term relationship, it's often not what you imagined it would be.
But as hard as it can be, this phase is actually an amazing opportunity for your love life to be more fulfilling and easeful than ever before.
Coaching for dating is especially helpful with the transitions that happen in this phase, that create strain in even the strongest relationships -- career changes, parenting challenges, shifts in desire, hormones and physical health…
In coaching for dating, I create a safe space to explore these challenges, so you can grow and feel more connected to a partner, or on dates, rather than feeling stagnant or resentful.
Are you ready for love to happen more easily?
While the happily ever fantasy isn’t real, I know you can have a supportive and exciting relationship, where you’re even blown away by the depth of connection and excitement you feel.
I work with people who know that your power comes with taking responsibility for your part in unsatisfying dynamics. With curiosity and compassion, we look at how to create the shifts that create more of the love and sex you want.
If this sounds like you and you’re ready for less struggle and more ease, book a free Effortless Love and Sex Consultation here so I can support you to create an amazing love life:
We’ll pinpoint what gets in the way of the love and sex you want, and find your unique path to have it.
Note: Many people think they shouldn’t need relationship help, but remember it’s not your fault that we aren’t taught how to do this. There’s no shame in getting help. Make it easier on yourself by leaning into the decades of experience I’ve accumulated.
And honestly, elite athletes and successful business people hire coaches, so don’t believe the lie that you’d only need a coach if there was something wrong with you. Even I still see coaches or therapists when I need support!
FAQ
Coaching for Dating sessions give you the tools, strategies, and guidance that makes communication and intimacy more easeful and exciting. We collaborate and tailor the dating coaching to your unique needs.
- We start by creating a safe, non-judgmental environment, so you feel safe to share about your struggles.
- We create goals based on what's most important to you, and what you want most. If you’re not clear about that, we’ll clarify this together.
- We explore what underlies unsatisfying patterns in your love life, such as conflicts, unmet needs, disappointments, and frustrations.
- We build practical skills to replace the old patterns, and improve your love life now, and for the rest of your life.
- We help you to stay true to yourself while connecting with others. You learn to deepen your capacity for connection, emotional intelligence and understanding.
- We destigmatize conversations about sex, to give you more freedom and vitality.
- We create practices to take back into your daily life, to reinforce your insights, and create the changes you want.
- We check in about, and troubleshoot, your practices as you try them out.
"Shana James is a phenomenal relationship coach with a special gift to transform my ability to be the vulnerable, open, transparent man who is worthy of an incredible woman.
Through her immense experience, and resources (that she created herself), I was able to develop my confidence, courage and vulnerability, to attract an amazing woman, who is now my girlfriend of over 9 months.
We have long, deep, lively, humorous and meaningful conversations. Without Shana, I would never have been able to be the man I am now, and be in a relationship with such a high caliber woman." - Mitch
If you’ve read all of this you’re clearly ready, so let’s talk!
Book a free Effortless Love and Sex Consultation where I’ll answer all your questions, and get you on the path to the love and sex you want.
It’s honestly not your fault that it’s hard. Many people come to me after doing years of therapy, and reading dozens of books, because they haven’t learned the relational skills and tools they need. As we put them into practice, with real-time support, dating and relationships become easier and more fulfilling. You’re not meant to do this alone!
We’ll pinpoint what gets in the way of the love and sex you want, and find your unique path to have it.
Note: Many people think they shouldn’t need relationship help, but remember it’s not your fault that we aren’t taught how to do this. There’s no shame in getting help. Make it easier on yourself by leaning into the decades of experience I’ve accumulated.
And honestly, elite athletes and successful business people hire coaches, so don’t believe the lie that you’d only need a coach if there was something wrong with you. Even I still see coaches or therapists when I need support!