When a man who has spent 50 years working with men’s struggles talks about one of the biggest influences in a man’s life — his relationship with his father — it’s important to listen.
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Whether you had a father who was present or absent, strict or lenient, warm or cold, you gleaned a lot about how to deal with life, and people, through him. He may have had an impact on your with his words and actions, or the lack of them.
Even if your father was physically present in your life, it’s likely he was absent in one way or another. He may have been absent through distance or coldness, criticism or impossibly high standards, or through working long hours and not wanting to be disturbed.
We can have compassion for his struggles. We actually have to, to allow compassion for your own. And it’s important to understand the impact this absence, or lack of attunement, had on you.
Today’s Man Alive podcast is about the relationship between father and son, and the wounds many men need to tend as a result. I am honored to be joined by Dr. Jed Diamond, who has been a therapist and a pioneer in the field of gender medicine and men’s health for more than 50 years. He vulnerably shares about his personal struggles with himself, his romantic relationships, parenting and career. In doing so, he makes it safe for you to look at your own struggles and come out of isolation and shame.
In this conversation we discuss…
- What the father wound is and how to know if you’re affected by it, even if your dad was physically present
- Three questions to answer now so you won’t experience regret at the end of your life
- The surprising way depression shows up for men and why you could be depressed without realizing it
- Using your worst fears as a path to more joy, freedom and fulfillment
- The entry point to the second journey into manhood and maturity
You may need tissues for this one. Because it IS ok to cry. When you’re done with this one, check out this episode on relief for men’s irritability and anger.
Next week I’ll launch episode 300, which will be the final episode of Man Alive. It will come out in two parts, over two weeks. Keep an eye out for these powerful episodes! And if you haven’t seen, there’s another podcast brewing. I’ll let you know more about it in the next few weeks.
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Bio:
Jed is a licensed psychotherapist with a Ph.D. in International Health and Master’s degree in Social Welfare. His passion is to help men and women have the most life-enhancing and joyful relationships possible. He believes creative, joyful, families are the hope for the future of humankind.
For 50 years, he has been a pioneer in the field gender medicine and men’s health. My colleague, John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, says, “I’ve known and appreciated Jed’s work for more than forty years. He gives you the tools you need to succeed in life and in love.”
Iyanla Vanzant, author of Trust, and host of Iyanla Fix My Life on OWN, says, “There are some skills you must have, some ways you must be, and some things you must learn or unlearn if you want to have a healthy, fulfilling and loving relationship. Jed Diamond’s work covers all the ‘musts’ and then some. What a blessing.”
His work has been featured in major newspapers throughout the United States including the New York Times, Boston Globe, Wall Street Journal, The Los Angeles Times, and USA Today. He has been featured on more than 1,000 radio and TV programs including The View with Barbara Walters, Good Morning America, Today Show, CNN-360 with Anderson Cooper, CNN with Glenn Beck, CBS, NBC, and Fox News, and To Tell the Truth. He also did a nationally televised special on Male Menopause for PBS-TV.
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