Many men try to gain confidence and attractiveness with rules and scripts. 15 years of working with men has shown me you can throw out the rules and “right words” when you cultivate deeper levels of connection and awareness. Today I share a skill that will help you be more successful in both love and business
Over the past 15 years I’ve watched many men try to gain confidence and attractiveness by turning to rules and scripts.
As I’ve coached men, I’ve become clear that you can throw out the rules and “right words to say!”
You don’t need them to have success in love or business, when you cultivate deeper levels of connection and awareness.
And it’s actually more simple than you might imagine.
One of my favorite exercises I do with men is the “Silent Approach.” You may have heard me talk about it before.
A man walks up to me (or virtually stands in front of me on a video conference), without saying a word. After 10-30 seconds I start to let him know what he’s communicating to me, without ever speaking.
I share the deeper layers he unknowingly gives off, like an invisible scent.
When we look at communication, words are the tip of the iceberg. Underneath the words are the physical, emotional and energetic realms.
Your success in business and love has much more to do with the underlying layers of communication than the words you use!
In my invisible Influence Course I talk about the 8 Invisible Influencers that, when practiced, change how people respond to you in powerful ways. In today’s Man Alive podcast I dove into one of these Influencers — one skill that will help you build more trust, respect and even attraction. I have seen many men who are high performers in their careers, and who women like and want, use this skill. It may surprise you in its simplicity.
In this episode I covered:
- What happens for a woman when she becomes aware of you
- The 3 shifts you can make right now that will make your actions more powerful
- The invisible influence you naturally have and whether you’re using or wasting it
- The overlap between success in business and love
- How to have a more powerful impact on women and colleagues, before you say a word
I haven’t done a solo episode in a long time so I’d love to know what you think about this format. Simply reply to this email to let me know what you gained from hearing this episode!
Shana has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love. Get 15 minutes of support with your biggest love or leadership challenge here. There’s no cost and no catch. If, at the end of the call, you decide you want more support, we’ll schedule another call for you to discuss.
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For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.
She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.
Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.
With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.
Why does Shana coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!
It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.
I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.