When Trust Feels Scary: How to Create Safety, Passion & Partnership with Shana James | 224
Trust can feel thrilling—and terrifying. How do you feel safe enough to be seen, set boundaries with love, and keep passion alive without losing yourself? Especially after 40? Learn how to build trust in a relationship.
In this episode, Hannah Chapman, CFP®, APMA®, CRPC®, is joined by Shana James, MA (Psychology)—relationship coach of 20 years, TEDx speaker (“What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal…”), host of Man Alive & Practicing Love, and author of Honest Sex and Power & Pleasure.
Together they unpack how to build real safety, move from independence to interdependence, and use honest conversation (and body-led yes/no) to create connection you can actually trust.
Learn more:
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Why “trust” often feels risky—and how to find safety in your own body first
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The difference between forcing connection vs. following a genuine yes
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Boundaries that sound loving (and actually deepen intimacy)
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Moving from “I’ve got this alone” to healthy interdependence
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Business as a spiritual practice: letting strategy serve your nervous system
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Sex talk without the shock factor: presence, honesty, attunement
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How to date (or re-date) after 40 without twisting yourself into a pretzel
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Tiny experiments to test trust—before you hand over your heart
Find this podcast episode on trust here:
Connect with Shana:
Quiz: What Keeps You From Having the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40?
Free copy of the Honest Sex book: https://shanajamescoaching.
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/
Website: https://shanajamescoaching.com
Connect with Hannah here:
X² Wealth Planning Website: https://x2wealthplanning.com/
Expansive CEO: https://expansiveceo.com/
Hannah’s Website: https://hannahrchapman.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/
We hope you have learned more about how to build trust in a relationship.