In this special episode, I’m joined by my partner, Marc Hopkins, for a real and honest conversation about how we actually found love — and what we did differently than in our past relationships.
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How I Found Love Without Games (And How You Can Find Real Love Too): Show Notes
I recorded a really special episode this week, one that is more personal and vulnerable than most.
I invited my partner, Marc, onto the Practicing Love podcast! We talked about how we found each other, and what we did differently as we dated that made our relationship possible (when we almost walked away). We also talk about what we practice regularly, to keep our relationship alive.
We did not fall in love on a whim, or by relying on chemistry.
We consciously chose to discover whether we’d be a good match.
We stopped trying to be desirable.
We didn’t avoid hard conversations.
And we said what we wanted, from the beginning — sometimes awkwardly and imperfectly.
There were moments where we could have shut down, hidden parts of ourselves or let our old patterns take over. But instead, we stayed in the discovery.
We didn’t give up quickly when we saw each other’s habits and attachment styles.
Instead, we asked deeper questions: Are you committed to that habit? What do you really want? Are you willing to open up with me?
We kept exploring to see what kind of relationship we could co-create when we didn’t make assumptions or pull away.
💖 What’s possible when you date this way is that you:
- Feel more relaxed and more yourself on dates
- Let go of second-guessing how you’re coming across and focus on exploring the connection
- Choose people who truly align with you, instead of those who can’t meet you
- Build connections on truth rather than masks, facades or fantasies
- Create the foundation for a relationship that deepens and gets more intimate and exciting over time
I created this episode to give a peak into a living example of what I teach in the Honest Dating Manual. Beyond understanding this new way of dating, I want you to know it’s possible for you. I want you to know that you can shift…
- From the pressure to perform → being loved for the real you
- From being nervous about truth → letting yourself be known
- From stressful urgency → playful discovery
- From fantasy that creates drama → reality where you’re cared for and supported
- From “I hope you pick me” → “Is this connection giving me what I need?”
We could have walked away from each other and missed out on an incredible relationship if we hadn’t known how to date and connect more honestly.
I know this kind of love is possible for you!
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