The divorce rate still hovers around 50% and men and women often have a hard time understanding each other. Today’s episode gives you tools to create connection and spark with women, while also navigating the inevitable conflicts that arise.
While relationships can be full of joy and excitement, they are also often not easy.
Whether you’re single, or in a relationship, it can be challenging and vulnerable to talk about your fears with women.
It can be scary to ask for what you want.
It can be hard to know when to move closer and when to back away.
I’m working on my TEDx talk: What 1,000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.
As I think more about this topic, it’s clear that all men (and all humans) have a wide range of feelings. Men, however, are mainly taught it’s only ok to express a few of them.
And with our culture having portrayed men’s vulnerability as weak or unattractive, many men are suffering silently and alone. Even men who look like they have it together on the outside.
Whether you experience challenges with relationships, parenting, family, health crises, or lacking meaning or joy in your life, you are not alone! Nor are you weak. It takes an incredible strength to feel your emotions as a man in this day and age.
I highly recommend attending workshops with other men so you can get support with your pain and struggles and see you’re not alone.
But many men walk out of these workshops without feeling safe, or knowing how, to be vulnerable with the women in their lives.
I see a need for a cultural shift to welcome men’s vulnerability.
In my talk I ask women to step up and become a part of the solution, rather than ignoring this.
I also give some guidance for sharing vulnerability in a way that creates connection, rather than sending people running for the hills!
Keep an eye out for my talk next month. If you have questions before it comes out email me here.
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For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.
She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.
Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.
With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.
Why does Shana coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!
It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.
I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.