In this episode of Practicing Love, I’m joined by sex and relationship coach and author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger, Caitlin V, for a powerful and refreshingly honest conversation about what actually creates satisfying, connected sex.
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Better, Longer, Stronger: How to Have Great, Connected Sex in Real Life: Show Notes
It’s becoming clearer and clearer that great sex isn’t about performance. So what makes sex great?
In this episode of Practicing Love, I’m joined by sex and relationship coach and author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger, Caitlin V, for a powerful and refreshingly honest conversation about what actually creates satisfying, connected sex.
We go beyond the usual tips and techniques and explore what’s really happening underneath performance pressure, mismatched expectations, and the cultural messages that shape how we show up in bed.
Caitlin shares insights from a decade of working with men and couples — from early ejaculation and arousal challenges to the deeper emotional and relational patterns that impact intimacy.
And we talk about what it actually takes to create a sex life that feels alive, connected, and sustainable over time.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why performance pressure is one of the biggest blockers to real pleasure and connection
- What’s actually behind common sexual challenges (and why it’s not just physical)
- How cultural expectations shape men’s and women’s experiences of sex
- Why unlearning can be more powerful than learning new techniques
- How presence, containment, and emotional safety unlock deeper arousal and intimacy
- The surprising skill that most impacts long-term satisfaction
This conversation is honest, nuanced, and deeply human.
If you’ve ever felt pressure to “get it right,” struggled to feel truly connected during sex, or wondered what actually creates great sex over time, this episode will open up a new way of understanding intimacy.
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Bio:
Caitlin V is a renowned sex and relationship coach, researcher, and educator who helps people build more confidence, connection, and pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She specializes in helping men overcome performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, and premature ejaculation, while also supporting couples to create deeper intimacy and more fulfilling sex lives. Through her coaching, courses, TV appearances, and YouTube channel — which has reached millions of viewers — Caitlin blends science, compassion, and practical tools to make conversations about sex more honest, empowering, and human.
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