Don't Settle For Less
Find Love, Awaken Attraction, Deepen Connection, and Make Love Last
The good news is you can have the love life you want,
with the attraction and trust
that creates passion and keeps it alive
Whether you're going on first dates, or decades into a relationship, there are tools and skills you can learn to make things easier for you.
You can…
- Feel more confident, relaxed, and supported, in everything from conversations to sex
- Have a love and sex life that gets richer and more exciting over time -- for as long as you live
- Have the freedom to be yourself in a way that brings someone closer to you -- no masks, facades, or trying to be “perfect” or “lovable”
- Know and ask for what you want, without the worry of being judged or offending someone
- Be free of painful patterns and draining conflicts, and instead feel understood, appreciated, and desired
A client who was in a relationship said:
“Before Shana, I was struggling to be honest about my real needs and desires. I was giving more than I was getting in return. Shana helped me step into my power and communicate more boldly.
My girlfriend and I deepened our love and understanding. We are now happily married. With my work, I got a promotion and two raises in the same year I worked with Shana.” – R
A client who was single said:
“People started approaching me, out of the blue. I wasn't doing anything different. It's like I became magnetic.” - D
Love, Sex, and Relationships are NOT Easy
You're not alone if you’ve been anxious, confused, or frustrated, while dating, or in a long term relationship.
It’s often awkward and scary to ask for the connection or sex you want. Many people shut down or settle so they don't get rejected, or feel like a burden.
Most of us were never taught to create connections or relationships that stay satisfying, supportive, and sexy for the long-term.
We become adults with very little education about love, communication, or sex. This leads to painful misunderstandings, disconnection, and heartbreak. But these can be avoided and resolved through love coaching!
If you have questions about dating or relationships, or find yourself stuck in unsatisfying patterns in your love or sex life, then you’re in the right place.
If you’re feeling…
- Disappointed to not have the connections or sex life you want
- Underappreciated or misunderstood
- Unsure how to ask for and create what’s important to you
- Tired of feeling like you have to prove yourself
Or if you…
- Feel trapped in the “nice guy,” “good girl,” or “people pleaser” role
- Find intimacy more vulnerable and challenging as your body ages
- Wish you felt more attractive, desired or full of vitality
- Are drained by recurring patterns or conflicts
This is not how it has to be.
What are the benefits of Love Coaching?
Love coaching decreases your stress and anxiety, and helps you create more connections, instead of pushing people away. As you learn about the foundations of healthy, exciting relationships, your dates and relationships start stronger and are more exciting, and they stay that way.
My clients have been blown away as they are more desired, appreciated and supported. Through coaching thousands of people, I know it's possible for you too!
You can avoid the breakdowns and breakups that are so common in dating and relationships these days.
“I had grown quite cynical of therapists. Shana was the last try before giving up on our relationship. From our first session Shana helped me be honest and really hear my partner.
She helped us discover how to come back to each other, and reconnect. As an architect, when I have the opportunity to work with a truly gifted designer, it’s a unique and powerful experience, Shana Is a truly gifted designer.” - Jon
Through Love Coaching you’ll find an upward spiral, where you become happier, more relaxed, more free to express all of you, and less worried about what others think.
You’ll clarify your wants, needs, and values, and learn to speak up for yourself in a way that creates more love and intimacy.
If you're dating, you'll attract more people who are a great fit for you, and hear more YESes. You’ll create healthy foundations on first dates.
If you're in a long-term relationship, love coaching helps you increase love, playfulness, support, and intimacy, and decrease conflict.
Introducing Your Love Coach…
Hi, I’m Shana James.
For as long as I can remember I wanted to understand love and relationships. Growing up I was so uninspired by the relationships around me that I made a vow to do it differently.
I got my Masters in Psychology, and after almost a decade of personal growth work I got married. I was sure I knew what it took to make it.
When we didn’t make it, it was incredibly humbling and heartbreaking. But it also catalyzed the biggest growth of my life. I had a chance to figure out how to be true to myself, rather than trying to make everyone else happy.
In the 20 years I’ve coached people on their love lives, I’ve also used mine to learn to love as best I can, and I bring all of my learnings to my clients.
I now understand what creates disconnection and distrust in relationships, and how to build trust and keep passion alive. It feels like a huge honor to help people find and keep love alive, with more ease and self-love.
I specialize in Love Coaching in midlife, because of the extra challenges we face, like career and life transitions, parenting and changing hormones.
“I help you discover your authentic super powers, so you can have the love life you want with less stress and more ease.
As a translator between men and women, I make communicating easier, so attraction and trust can build.”
- Shana James
Through Love Coaching you'll have more...
♥ Clarity: Have a deeper understanding of your needs and desires, and how to express them freely, so you get more of what you want
♥ Confidence: Cultivate an unshakable belief in, and freedom to be, yourself -- the foundation for healthy, loving, sexy connection
♥ Healing and Growth: Resolve emotional wounds that kept you stuck or frustrated, so you can feel more loved, and love more
♥ Empowerment: Know how to take care of and stay true to yourself, while creating connections.
♥ Conscious Communication: Decrease misunderstandings and conflicts, and have meaningful conversations that bring you closer than ever
♥ True Intimacy: Learn to reveal and receive another's vulnerability, so you are loved for ALL of you and have a deeply meaningful connection
♥ Partnership: Be truly supported, understood, and loved in a way that allows you to shine in all areas of life, and advocate for your needs
♥ A More Connected and Exciting Sex Life: Learn to talk about and co-create sexual experiences that are exciting, nourishing, and connected
“I have never talked about things so freely and confidently, from the very beginning of dating and then as I deepened a relationship. I feel closer and more understood than ever. I had no idea it could be this good!” - S
Why Love Coaching is Especially Important in Midlife
Midlife brings new challenges. Whether you’re starting over after a divorce or a breakup, or revitalizing a long-term relationship, it's often not what you imagined it would be.
But as hard as it can be, this phase is actually an amazing opportunity for your love life to be more fulfilling and easeful than ever before.
Love coaching is especially helpful with the transitions that happen in this phase, that create strain in even the strongest relationships -- career changes, parenting challenges, shifts in desire, hormones and physical health…
In love coaching, I create a safe space to explore these challenges, so you can grow and feel more connected to a partner, or on dates, rather than feeling stagnant or resentful.
Are you ready for love to happen more easily,
and be more of what you want?
While the happily ever fantasy isn’t real, I know you can have a supportive and exciting relationship, where you’re even blown away by the depth of connection and excitement you feel.
I work with people who know that your power comes with taking responsibility for your part in unsatisfying dynamics. With curiosity and compassion, we look at how to create the shifts that create more of the love and sex you want.
If this sounds like you and you’re ready for less struggle and more ease, book a free Effortless Love and Sex Consultation here so I can support you to create an amazing love life:
We’ll pinpoint what gets in the way of the love and sex you want, and find your unique path to have it.
Note: Many people think they shouldn’t need relationship help, but remember it’s not your fault that we aren’t taught how to do this. There’s no shame in getting help! Make it easier on yourself by leaning into the decades of experience I’ve accumulated.
Honestly, elite athletes and successful business people hire coaches, so don’t think you’d only need a coach if there was something wrong with you. I still see coaches or therapists when I need support, and I’ve been coaching for 20+ years!
FAQ
Love coaching sessions give you the tools, strategies, and guidance that makes communication and intimacy more easeful and exciting. We collaborate and tailor the love coaching to your unique needs.
- We start by creating a safe, non-judgmental environment, so you feel safe to share about your struggles.
- We create goals based on what's most important to you, and what you want most. If you’re not clear about that, we’ll clarify this together.
- We explore what underlies unsatisfying patterns in your love life, such as conflicts, unmet needs, disappointments, and frustrations.
- We build practical skills to replace the old patterns, and improve your love life now, and for the rest of your life.
- We help you to stay true to yourself while connecting with others. You learn to deepen your capacity for connection, emotional intelligence and understanding.
- We destigmatize conversations about sex, to give you more freedom and vitality.
- We create practices to take back into your daily life, to reinforce your insights, and create the changes you want.
- We check in about, and troubleshoot, your practices as you try them out.
"Shana James is a phenomenal relationship coach with a special gift to transform my ability to be the vulnerable, open, transparent man who is worthy of an incredible woman.
Through her immense experience, and resources (that she created herself), I was able to develop my confidence, courage and vulnerability, to attract an amazing woman, who is now my girlfriend of over 9 months.
We have long, deep, lively, humorous and meaningful conversations. Without Shana, I would never have been able to be the man I am now, and be in a relationship with such a high caliber woman." - Mitch
If you’ve read all of this you’re clearly ready, so let’s talk!
Book a free Effortless Love and Sex Consultation where I’ll answer all your questions, and get you on the path to the love and sex you want.
It’s honestly not your fault that it’s hard. Many people come to me after doing years of therapy, and reading dozens of books, because they haven’t learned the relational skills and tools they need. As we put them into practice, with real-time support, dating and relationships become easier and more fulfilling. You’re not meant to do this alone!
We’ll pinpoint what gets in the way of the love and sex you want, and find your unique path to have it.
Reminder: Many people think they shouldn’t need relationship help, but it’s not your fault that we aren’t taught how to do this. There’s no shame in getting help. Make it easier on yourself by using the decades of experience I’ve accumulated.
Honestly, elite athletes and successful business people hire coaches, so it’s not true that you’d only need a coach if there was something wrong with you. I still see coaches or therapists when I need support, even after coaching for 20+ years!!