In this follow up episode we discuss overcoming common challenges men face in the bedroom and how to listen to your body to create more pleasure and connection.
I know it can be challenging to find conscious, useful information on sex and intimacy, especially geared toward men and with women who are your allies!
So I brought back Alyssa Morin, a Somatic Sex Educator, Relationship and Intimacy Guide and founding faculty of the Institute for Erotic Intelligence, to continue our conversation about Simple Experiments for Better Sex. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 yet I highly recommend listening to that episode first – #101.
Alyssa breaks down the complexity of pleasure, embodiment and relationship into simple actions, without removing the mystery and magic of the full erotic experience.
In other words, instead of giving you a complicated list of practices to accomplish — like embodying an ancient God or getting into positions that will leave your muscles cramped for days — she gives you easy, focused practices that actually help you create connection and spark.
In this episode we discussed:
- Common challenges men face, including early ejaculation, erectile issues and being an over-giver
- Listening to your body’s responses and remembering they actually make sense
- How to understand your erotic map and expand your pleasure
- How to go from needing a specific set of circumstancesto having a wider range of experience that creates orgasm
- Sexually relevant material — what it is and how finding it creates more excitement and passion
This week, in a client session, we talked about how he is discovering a more satisfying sex-life, with a wider range of pleasure and more connection with his wife.
We both agreed it’s hard to describe this in a way that makes sense to many men. I often say to men: “You have no idea what’s possible — how much more pleasure, connection and love is available.” But that doesn’t paint a picture of the ecstatic and deeply touching sexual and intimate experiences that start to happen when you learn how to communicate, receive, and attune to your partner’s body.
Ready for more pleasure in your sex life? Tell me about yourself here and we’ll set up a time to talk if I’m a good fit to support you.
Alyssa Morin is a Somatic Sex Educator, Relationship and Intimacy Guide, and founding faculty of the Institute for Erotic Intelligence. She weaves mindfulness, embodiment, soulcraft, and practical information into her work with individuals, couples, and groups. She breaks down the complexity of pleasure, embodiment, and relationship (to self, other, and the World) into understandable, actionable parts and pieces that can be worked with and made sense of, without removing an ounce of the mystery and magic of the full erotic experience. Nearly ten years of her own exploration in sexuality, conscious relating, soulcentric practices, and Zen
have led to a multifaceted approach that is co-creative and emergent. Drawn to this field of work because of a complete lack of sexual education, combined with a lineage of sexual trauma and shadow, Alyssa creates community where people can come together to explore themselves and
others, to learn together, and to demystify and embody their erotic selves on their own terms, and at their own pace, with support, challenge, and connection.