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How to Access Your Power, Confidence and Clarity
Many of us are frustrated with our relationships. We’re settling for mediocre marriages that we don’t know how to revive.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Our relationships are not the problem.
The problem is that we lack the skills to make them into what they could be.
Today you will be empowered with those skills.
I help you understand what women love most about their men.
I teach you how to ask for what we need and what we desire without fear.
I also show you how to access our power, confidence, and clarity so that we can live truly extraordinary lives.
6 Steps to Be a More Confident Man – Brian Driscoll
Confidence is something I find most men want but many struggle to get. In today’s conversation Beacon explains why confidence can feel out of reach and the steps to take to truly have it.
Show notes on how to build confidence
In this conversation we covered:
- What confidence actually is
- How to stop striving for confidence and start building it (You don’t have to fake it til you make it!)
- The six ways you may be eroding your own confidence
- Why you can stop needing to be right — it has nothing to do with confidence
- Brian’s story of finding work and an authentic style that made him feel more confident
Bio:
Brian Driscoll is a coach, counsellor, mentor and strategist who delivers life changing transformation to men who want more from their lives. His new, modern version of masculinity gives men more fulfillment at work, a greater sense of ease in their home life and a greater social impact.
Brian’s journey into modern manhood started with extreme introversion and zero social connections when he graduated from college. He built social skills, confidence, and secure foundation from scratch! He had to learn the deeper reasons WHY we do the things we do, since nothing came “naturally” and this led him to greater confidence and ease in my life than he saw among his peers, which led him to become a coach so he can teach what he’s learned.
Brian has over 10 years of workshop facilitation for hundreds of people in the areas of authentic connection and communication skills and more than 5 years of coaching. In his free time he practices jokes on friends and family and is eternally grateful they continue to humor him.
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The Myth of Confidence: The Key to True Confidence – Decker Cunov
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A Surprising Key to CONFIDENCE
Last weekend I facilitated a workshop in which participants were encouraged to reveal parts of themselves they usually hide. They vulnerably shared their anger, grief, fear, self-consciousness, attraction…
Why?
Because I’ve found that the when you stop hiding the parts of yourself you think make you unlovable, and the parts you think will push others away, you actually feel less inhibited, awkward or nervous.
Even though you may imagine otherwise, sharing those parts allows you to become stronger and freer, more at ease in your connections and relationships.
You Are Not Alone
There is a relaxation that happens inside as you realize that at some point EVERYONE feels unworthy, scared and ashamed. A deeper confidence takes root as you recognize you don’t have to be perfect, or prove that you’re good enough.
I sat with one man as he expressed rage for the first time. It shocked him that when he was done, I looked into his eyes and said “I’m not scared of you.” As we both accepted his rage, it transformed into power and creative energy. Ten minutes before he’d been waiting for others to give him permission to have what he wanted. Suddenly he had access to his clarity and power. He asked for what he wanted without waiting!
Another man had a moment of vulnerability where he felt alone and less than the people around him. As I slowed him down and helped him move his attention from his thoughts to his emotions, and from his inner dialogue to our connection, his fear and self-judgment lessened. His mind stopped making up comparisons where he came up short. He started to feel nourished by being connected instead of hungry and afraid.
In another moment I supported a man to allow his turn-on, to feel the fullness of his desire, rather than shut it down. He said it released shame he’d been holding for decades and then realized how amazing it would feel to have more intimacy in his relationships.
Confidence Isn’t What It Seems to Be
These are three moments of hundreds that happened over the weekend. I share them so you know that you too, Test First Name, can find strength and confidence in unlikely experiences.
The thing about confidence is that it’s not about finally reaching a point where you feel great about ALL of yourself. True confidence is having compassion for yourself and the ability to recognize that you are ok, just as you are…that you can create connection from exactly where you are.
Sure you can still choose to grow, deepen, expand or change, but from a place of relaxing into your unique challenges, rather than fighting them. I promise it’s a lot more enjoyable that way!
With love,
