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Is the Masculine Feminine Distinction Helpful for Men? – Satyen Raja

April 4, 2024 by Shana James Leave a Comment

While I’ve seen men feel more powerful and confident as they embrace “masculine” qualities, I’ve also seen many men suffer and struggle, feeling unmanly or not good enough. This episode explores masculine / feminine dynamics, to see whether and how taking them on can be useful for men.

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Today’s episode is a replay from years ago that I still find incredibly helpful today. I went into this conversation with a strong curiosity about whether it’s still useful to talk about a distinction between masculine and feminine.

With humans taking on a wider range of characteristics on the gender spectrum than when I first started coaching, I wanted to explore whether this distinction still supports you to create intimacy and passion. I brought Satyen Raja, a long time coach, to the podcast and in our conversation we cover:

How to use masculine and feminine qualities in our current era without turning them into another bullshit framework to live up to and make yourself wrong about
The perspective that allows you to stop trying to fix yourself
How to balance impeccability with becoming less serious — to become more successful AND enjoy your life
What to do if you don’t trust yourself
A morning practice that only takes a few minutes and will help ensure you get the most out of life

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This is an exciting one where you’ll learn…

A template for conversations to create more pleasure and connection with a woman
How to have conversations that go somewhere – that build and set up an experience where you’re both more likely to get what you want and need
The key to creating the “right size” experience, so you don’t blow up a date or relationship, and both of you are left wanting more

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Satyen Raja, founder and president of WarriorSage, is a widely respected living synthesis of Eastern wisdom and Western practicality, combining the power of the Warrior and the wisdom of the Sage.

He is a lifetime black belt Martial Artist and a penetrating real visionary who compels his clients to harness their greatest obstacles and transform them into their most powerful gifts. Satyen draws from the realms of unparalleled techniques of life mastery, his profound life experience, and his natural ability to navigate beyond societal, cultural and conditioned identities to attain peak consciousness.

The Path of the WarriorSage, although not for the timid, is deep, fast and razor effective. This level of spiritual practice is intense. You must be willing to go into the fire and grow your heart. Satyen offers this opportunity for transformation out of his passion to help you awaken. Satyen is the teacher for you only if you are seeking real change.

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#260: Vulnerability Doesn’t Have to be Scary – Christopher Veal

April 13, 2023 by Shana James Leave a Comment

Vulnerability can be one of those words, or sentiments, that has men especially want to run. Today’s guest was part of a very masculine world, without vulnerability, and eventually recognized the cost. We talk about how vulnerability doesn’t have to be so scary and how embracing it can actually be a path to power and success.

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I know vulnerability can be one of those words, or sentiments, that has you want to run the other way. But today I am bringing you someone who was part of a very masculine world, without vulnerability, and eventually recognized the costs to himself, his loved ones and the world.

Many boys and men have been told that being vulnerable is weak or unmanly. There is an idea that being vulnerable means falling apart. Really though, vulnerability is a a type of strength. It takes courage to reveal your fears and desires, and the places you don’t have it all together. And when you find the place within, where you know your innate goodness, and have nothing to prove, vulnerability isn’t so scary. It becomes a doorway to connection, respect and even attraction.

People are welcoming vulnerability more and more these days, and today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Christopher Veal, is on the leading edge of this movement. Christopher is the author of The Whole Man: Evolving Masculinity. He also hosts The Vulnerable Man podcast. Earlier in his life, he was an officer in the Marine Corps and worked in the construction industry. And yet Chris woke up to the power of vulnerability and the pain caused when men are taught to hide and isolate parts of themselves.

In our powerful conversation we discussed:

The elements and superpowers of a Whole Man
How to evolve masculinity in a way that benefits everyone
Why the shift from an either/or to a both/and mentality leads to more fulfillment and success
How to ease the intensity when you get triggered
Chris’ book and podcast: The Whole Man and The Vulnerable Man

Christopher is an amazing human and is an example of embodying a wide range of healthy masculine and feminine qualities. When you’re done with this one, check out this episode on how a man can move through, and even embrace, fear as a strength.

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Christopher works deliberately each day to live into his purpose of creating authentic connections. He knows that some days he does better than others at leaning in to being vulnerable, and aims to improve with every interaction.

In his life he’s worn many hats: father, executive coach, Marine Corps officer, TEDx speaker, organizational development professional, facilitator, traveler, keynote speaker, podcast host, student of life, music lover, and explorer. He is excited to finally be adding Author to that list with the publishing of The Whole Man: Evolving Masculinity, which is the latest iteration of his quest to destigmatize the word ‘vulnerability’ for men.

When he’s not busy with these other pursuits, he loves spending time with his amazing daughter, listening to music, playing piano and (a little) guitar, mountain biking, riding his motorcycle, and is somewhat successfully training their Boxer, Apollo.

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#246: Healthy Masculinity and Femininity in Relationships – J. Malik

November 17, 2022 by Shana James Leave a Comment

The concept of masculine/feminine dynamics in relationships can be viewed through overly simplistic lenses. Today’s guest goes deep into the nature of humanity to illuminate the benefits of both masculine and the feminine, and how balancing them can bring us together in healthier, more authentic ways.

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By now you know I value information and perspectives that support you to have healthy, thriving relationships, for as long as you want to be in them.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve discovered a lot of nuance in the teachings about masculine/feminine dynamics. These dynamics are not black and white, and they are not just about men vs. women. I’ve seen harm done when we try to view them in a simplistic way.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, J. Malik, goes deep into the concept of masculine/feminine balance in relationships, as well as the nature of life itself. J. is a spiritual teacher, author, and speaker who emphasizes the importance of spiritual alignment in our careers, relationships, and finances.

In our deep and nuanced conversation we discussed:

Bringing the masculine and feminine aspects back together
Discovering your true self and divine identity
How to know whether you are choosing a partner from lack, or to support synergy
Polarization, rather than trying to be palatable
How to enter a woman’s vortex

J.’s wisdom goes deep into the nature of reality, including light and shadow. He seems to understand true balance, and calls for wisdom to be spread from elders, not just from youth and beauty. When you’re done with this episode, check out this episode from the beginning of Man Alive, where we explore whether the masculine/feminine distinction is helpful for men, with long-time teacher Satyen Raja.

May your relationships continue to become healthier and stronger over time!

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Jakal El-Malik (aka J. Malik) is an American spiritual teacher, author, and speaker who emphasizes the importance of spiritual alignment in our careers, our relationships, and our finances. His mission is to heal the collective energy so that humanity can walk into its true purpose with healthy and prosperous relationships. Malik advocates for men embracing masculinity, leadership, and success so that women can be safe to operate in their femininity, and creative flow, and not have to operate from survival mode. In his books, J. Malik references this overarching theme of masculine-feminine balance to address the nature of life itself and teaches this message everywhere there is a welcoming ear.

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#197: The Full Range of Man – Seth Studley

August 19, 2021 by Shana James Leave a Comment

There is a wide spectrum of qualities that humans can express. When a man shies away from characteristics that are typically labeled feminine, he often suffers. Today’s guest straddles the masculine/feminine divide to express the full range of man. He is happier and more powerful as a result.

Show notes

Have you ever considered who you would be if, from a young age, there wasn’t an incredible amount of encouragement to be masculine?

Maybe you were one of the lucky ones, who didn’t get called a wimp for having feelings, or who wasn’t told to man up. But most boys, in some way, shape or form, were told to hide qualities that were feminine or “girly.”

Sure, there are biological differences between men and women, but that doesn’t mean you have to forego or avoid what our culture has labeled “feminine” qualities. These days the younger generations are showing us that gender is not as binary as we were taught. And there is a lot more power and pleasure available to you when you embrace qualities from the whole spectrum.

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Seth Studley, is hypermasculine on the one hand — he hunts, loves to jumps from high places and rarely wears a shirt. He also embraces his feminine side on the other hand, as an amazing listener and counselor. As a therapist, Seth has worked with female teams for 15 years and has learned to embrace the full range of manlihood, including what could be seen as feminine characteristics.

In this playful and deep conversation we talked about…

What a blend of masculine and feminine energy can look like in a man
How to let go of the stigma of embracing feminine qualities
Taking on vulnerability as strength
The anatomy of marriage, sex and family
Why Seth’s wife punched him in the eye and how it benefited their relationship

When you’re done with this one check out this episode to continue the inquiry of whether the masculine feminine distinction is helpful or B.S. with Satyen Raja.

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Seth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and along with his wife Melanie are the couple behind the Anatomy Of Marriage Podcast, a show that helps couples make sense of messy marriages. Together they share the story of how they fixed their own nearly failed 13 year marriage to help couples realize that they are not alone.

They rethink some of the biggest topics in marriage like Communication, Sex, Expectations, Domestic Violence, Identity, Mental Health, Divorce and then they talk through those ideas with amazing professionals in the marriage space!

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Is the Masculine Feminine Distinction Helpful for Men? – Satyen Raja

September 26, 2017 by Shana James 1 Comment

What purpose does the masculine feminine distinction serve? While I’ve seen men feel more powerful and confident as they embrace “masculine” qualities, I’ve also seen a lot of men suffer and struggle, feeling unmanly or not good enough. This episode explores masculine feminine dynamics to see whether they can be useful for men!

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