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#300 Part 2: What’s Next For Man Alive and You – Dr. Eric Fitzmedrud

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The Man Alive podcast started seven years ago, and has introduced hundreds of experts and their work to men who want to grow and become healthier. Listen to hear where Man Alive is headed, after this 300th episode.

If you’re not satisfied with your love or sex-life, and could use some insights into what makes women want more of you, tell me more about yourself here and we’ll schedule a time to talk: shanajamescoaching.com/contact

Show notes

Out of a desire to support men to have the resources and information they need to be healthy, happy, and have the impact they want to have on the world, I started the Man Alive podcast.

My vision, 7 years ago, was to give men a private way to explore topics they may not feel comfortable asking for help with.

I’ve loved the guests and conversations we’ve had. It has been an incredible journey and reaching episode 300 isn’t something I foresaw when I started.

This episode is a recap of where I started, and then transitions into where I’m going from here. I still have men in mind, and think you’re going to enjoy the new podcast I’m envisioning, and you’ll be able to invite others who aren’t men, to listen. More on this soon!

In this episode, Dr. Eric Fitzmedrud, a colleague, friend, and author of The Better Man, and I talked about…

  • Man Alive’s beginnings
  • What it takes to be both sovereign and connected in relationships
  • The power of intermingling gender groups and learning from each other
  • What love’s got to do with it
  • My vision for a new podcast that will go live this fall

I am still here for you, even as the format changes, so don’t hesitate to reach out if you need anything.

More and more these days, I’m supporting men who are exploring expanding their consciousness, whether through meditation, medicine journeys, energy work, tantra, etc. Expansion can take time and space to integrate and evolve. If you want support with this, reply to this email and let me know.

If you’re willing, I’d love to hear how the Man Alive podcast has touched you over the years. Simply reply here and I’ll read them all.

Links:

Connect with Dr. Eric

DrEricFitz.com

Connect with Shana James

Honest Sex

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Bio:

Eric became a licensed psychologist through a circuitous route. He began with a strong interest in spirituality and human development during his undergraduate major in Religious Studies. He considered a more academic career but realized that what he really felt called to do was work with people one-on-one. Eric began his Ph.D. in 2002 and earned his Clinical Psychology Ph.D. in 2008. He is honored to get to do work he enjoys, that is meaningful, and helps others live meaningful, connected lives.

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Unmasking Masculinity: How to Create Emotionally Satisfying Relationships

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We dive deep into the nuances that are often lost in translation in heterosexual relationships to answer important questions: What does it mean to be human? What does it mean to be human together? If you have a male figure in your life, listen to this conversation to learn more about using empathy for more understanding, connection, and meaning.

Watch here! – Unmasking Masculinity: How to Create Emotionally Satisfying Relationships

The Vulnerable Man – Episode 95

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This conversation seems to fly by, and we get to a lot of places in it. From being present to life, to how women can better receive men’s vulnerability, naming the fear, the idea of regular check-ins for relationships, sharing impact versus interpreting intention, and allowing ourselves and others to grow and change.

Watch here! – The Vulnerable Man – Episode 95

#229: Loving, Lasting Relationships Through the Power of Us – Terry Real

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In a world where we spend a lot of time acting independent, or falling into codependence, there is another way. We can learn to evolve to interdependence and focus on Us, rather than only You or Me. On today’s episode, Terry Real discusses his new book: Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

Show notes

Most people I know don’t want to be codependent, so these days many of us become independent and self-reliant. But what if we have gone too far?

On the spectrum from codependent to independent, there is a middle ground — interdependent. When we are interdependent in relationships we acknowledge the impact we have on each other. We work together to meet our needs (in a mature way) and grow.

We focus on Us, not only I or You.

How do we get our needs met together in relationships? How do we grow and learn simultaneously?

Today’s Man Alive podcast guest brings you answers from one of my trusted mentors. Terry Real has returned to Man Alive with his 30+ years of experience in the field of psychology. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, where he trains therapists to work with couples. He has written many books and his new book — US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship — came out this week!

I am honored to have gotten to discuss with Terry…

  • The importance of co-regulation in a relationship
  • The steps of relationship repair based in relational mindfulness
  • 3 modes of negotiation we tend to use, and which ones actually create, rather than destroy, connection
  • 5 losing strategies most couples engage in
  • The background question we silently ask our partners, often without realizing it

Terry has a no bullshit approach that is also full of love and compassion. He has helped thousands of couples heal and reignite love. When you’re done with this episode, check out our first Man Alive conversation on how to save your relationships with fierce love!

Links:

Connect with Terry Real

TerryReal.com

Connect with Shana James

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

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Bio:

Terrence Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents along with a professional training program for clinicians to learn his Relational Life Therapy methodology. He is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It, How Can I Get Through to You?, and The New Rules of Marriage.

Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression. His expertise on men’s mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others.

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Better Sex, Better Relationship with Shana James

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A fascinating deep dive into sex and relationship. Some of the topics include…

What do the tears of men reveal about the conflict between men and women? What happens when someone gives you 100% permission to feel everything you feel? How do authenticity and vulnerability in men improve their romantic relationships?

How can men create more of a spark in their romantic relationship?

How does passion enter into men’s careers, dreams and ultimately, satisfaction with life?

3 Tips To a More Passionate Love Life – Alex Allman

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Love Life Hacks

Men often think they need to try to be someone they’re not to have deep connection and intimacy in their relationships, but this conversation shows it’s just not true!

Show notes on love life hacks

In this conversation we covered:

  • The misperception that both kills connection and passion in relationships and makes single guys less likely to get a date  
  • Why many men end up feeling lonely in their relationships with women
  • What to do instead of games, lines and pick up shit
  • The most valuable resource you have, besides which everything else is replaceable 
  • What men need but often overlook that gives them more pleasure in the bedroom

Bio:

Alex Allman is the creator of the best selling books and programs that have helped tens of thousands of men, women, and couples enjoy more passionate relationships, overcome insecurities, enhance sexual pleasure, create deeper intimacy and communication, and improve their sexual confidence. His writing, lectures, public appearances, and videos have been seen by more than 10 million people around the world. In 2007 he founded the company Life Love Passion, Inc., with the mission of helping men and women have the experience of True Love, and to help them get more fun, deeply connected passion, and intimacy in their relationships.

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Shana James Coaching – Learn the most important skill men who are professionally successful and have a fulfilling love life use every day

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NEW: A weekly peek into what turns women ON (or OFF!)

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I recently started something new, so please have compassion for me.

I ask for this for myself of course, but also because it’s a great practice for you.

It’s not easy to start something new. Whether you’re starting a new hobby or trying a new kind of sensual connection…anything you do that’s new means you’re vulnerably exposing yourself. Which feels risky!

What if you’re not respected, loved or wanted?

What if you’re attacked, resented, ignored or abandoned?

But if you don’t try new things you get stuck in old ruts that may not be satisfying. Taking a risk is often what creates newness and excitement.

Since I ask my clients to take risks, I take them too.

Drumroll please…. 😉

I want you to have more understanding and support about women, dating, sex and relationship.

So I created Behind the Curtain: A Weekly Peek Into Rare Dating, Sex and Relationship Wisdom. 

These are short recordings (a few minutes in length) for men based on my insights and experience working with thousands of people over the past 15 years – men and women both.

You get effective tools and perspectives to help you enjoy yourself as you navigate the vulnerable experience of creating more intimacy and hotter sex.

The first two weekly peeks are posted on my FB page.

#1 is about how to stop being seen as a friend and be chosen for dates, sex and relationship. Note: if you’re in a relationship and would like more sex this applies to you too!

#2 is about how to handle the judgement, fear and concerns that arise in love and sex.

Go here to listen now.

They are only a few minutes long and men have told me they love it!

While you’re there, “LIKE” my Facebook page so you’ll be notified of future weekly peeks. I’d also love to see your comment about your biggest insight after listening.

With love,

Shana

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