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5 Ways to Have Better Dates and Relationships in Midlife – Shana James

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Midlife dating and relationships have their challenges but they are also an opportunity for incredible connection, healing and passion. This episode gives you five ways to have better love in midlife.

Show notes

Dating and relationships are challenging at any age but midlife comes with particular challenges!

  • Bodies droop
  • Sexuality can fade
  • There’s more responsibility at work
  • We can be more set in our ways and resistant to change
  • There are more people to take care of (Sometimes kids, parents and friends all need attention)

It’s NOT easy.

At the same time though, when we orient toward a more mature kind of dating and relationship, there is amazing potential for deeper love and even more passion.

In today’s Man Alive podcast episode I share my experience coaching men and women over the past 15 years, and my own dating and relationship experience in midlife and after divorce, to bring you:

  • 5 ways to tap into the power and beauty of dating and relationships in midlife
  • Why some parts of love become easier as we get older
  • How to go from feeling resentful or unfulfilled to inspired and excited in relationships
  • A surprising way to create more spark
  • My personal stories and learnings about dating and relationships post divorce

Links:

Connect with Shana James

Honest Sex

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

Why does Shana coach men?!

When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!

It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.

I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.

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How to Show Emotions Without Seeming Weak

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This episode is my response to a client who recently asked how to still be seen as powerful and masculine as he shared his emotions.

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I remember a date years ago where a man opened up with me and cried.

He let me see a part of him he was scared I wouldn’t like.

I listened to his pain and appreciated his vulnerability.

Later, he told me he’d never cried in this way with a woman who stayed connected and loving with him. Women in the past had become distant or upset. They’d even lost their attraction.

Women and men both have work to do.

I believe women need to learn to hold men’s emotions and vulnerability with compassion, instead of becoming cold or defensive. (Women don’t realize that under the surface they may be afraid of losing the strong person they rely on.)

I believe men need to learn to validate themselves and believe in their innate goodness, even when they feel overwhelmed or insecure.

But this is NOT easy. The wounds that create this kind of fear and defensiveness happen in relationships. It isn’t easy to undo them on your own.

I often support men with the overlap between strength and vulnerability. I help men talk openly about their struggles in a way that doesn’t give the impression of being weak.

Today I wanted to share insights from a client who asked how he could still be seen as powerful and masculine as he shared his emotions.

In this episode I cover:

  • How to feel the fullness of your attraction and desire without offending women
  • How Head / Heart / Body balance impacts your attractiveness
  • What happens when your heart is more open than your sexuality
  • What makes someone feel drawn to you WHILE you share emotions
  • The trap of thinking a woman is your only path to pleasure and happiness

After you listen I’d love to hear your insights. You can email me at shana [@] shanajamescoaching.com.

Also, if you need some guidance or support with confidently sharing emotions in a way that creates connection, rather than pushes others away, fill out this form and we can schedule a time to talk. I have two coaching spots available right now.

Links:

Connect with Shana James

Honest Sex

Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways

Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years I have coached nearly a thousand men — leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and men with big visions. These men step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

I’ve been known for my ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then I create a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love and sex.

Referred to by men as a secret weapon, I cut through distraction and provide direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. I am also a translator of “woman speak” and give you effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection, affection and passion.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, my range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

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#100: Celebrating Men + Man Alive Podcast Origins

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In the 100th episode of Man Alive I celebrate men and share a vision for a world where men are supported and understood in their most vulnerable places. I also talk about the Man Alive podcast origins and where it’s headed.

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Today is the day — Man Alive’s 100th episode! I’m so happy you’re here. 

I wanted to take this opportunity to celebrate you and share more about Man Alive — why I started it, where it’s heading and what I want for you and all men.

More than a decade ago, a man told me that I (along with some others) brought him back to life. He hadn’t been sure he had it in him to continue with life. He was facing extremely painful relationship, parenting and internal challenges.

You may never have reached the point of imagining taking your own life, but I wouldn’t be surprised if you knew what it was like for some part of you to feel like it was dying, or lacking what you needed to really feel alive. 

Man Alive was created as a resource for men to feel more alive and supported, rather than alone and lacking vitality and inspiration.

In this episode my dear friend and colleague Michael Welp interviewed me. I talked about…

  • What men who are givers need to receive more of
  • How to use midlife to find more meaning and aliveness in a man’s life
  • The importance of being able to know, ask for and co-create what you want 
  • The causes of suffering for men I’ve worked with and the path to healing that pain 
  • The origins of Man Alive and where its heading

To celebrate this 100th episode I’d be really grateful if you would share the podcast with one man you think could use support in his life with love, leadership and leaving a legacy, or a man who values growing.

Thank you for being with me to celebrate the 100th episode of Man Alive. I’m excited to continue with more experts, wisdom and useful content to support you! 

Links:

For men:  3 Ways Men Lose Influence at Work and With Women

For Women : Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

Why does Shana coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!

It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.

I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.


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