I looked at a photo of a man the other day and I felt a rush of pleasure through my body. He was about 15 years older than me and not even my type. But oh my god I literally felt the presence in his eyes and the aliveness in his body!
I’ve had this feeling happen in person too, sometimes before I even saw the man, my body started to buzz with turn-on. When I turned around to see who was causing my body to light up, it wasn’t necessarily the hottest man in the room, but it has always been a man who emits not only strength and presence, but also care and humility.
Sadly, I don’t experience this very often. But what that tells me is you have the opportunity to blow the socks off of some fantastic women!
I’m not talking about playing a game with women. When you are opening women’s hearts and bodies, before saying a word, it means you are tapped into the most powerful, impactful, loving parts of yourself. You are tapped into and believing your own amazingness. You are living your life aligned with your deepest values!
In the last ten years I have had hundreds of men do a “silent approach exercise” with me. In 5-20 seconds I feel a range of feelings and sensations in my body — from fear to frustration, to dullness, to excitement, to turn on! There is so much more happening than “chemistry.”
So how is it that you can have such an impact before you even speak?
Everything you do, choose, think about and feel adds or detracts energy from your body. In every interaction you are a conglomeration of how you spend your time, the actions you take and the way you relate to yourself. Your body communicates with the people around you, even when you aren’t using words.
It’s actually quite simple when you think about it this way…
The better you feel about yourself → the less inner dialogue you have about what she may not like about you → the more able you are to relax and interact with a woman in a way that is playful, passionate and connected.
The more your choices align with your values → the less you shrink back out of shame or self-doubt → the more forthcoming you are with your honesty, your desires, and even your sensuality.
The better the connections you have with friends and family → the less you need the woman in front of you to fill something that’s missing in your life → the more you can enjoy the unique moment you’re sharing with a woman, without forcing it.
It’s not a tactic for getting women to like you. It just happens to be what has women genuinely and wholeheartedly want to be with you.
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As you interact with people this week, start to explore how you feel when there is silence. When you learn to shift from wondering whether you’re saying or doing the right thing, to relaxing and enjoying the woman across from you (on a first date or the 50th year of your marriage), you help women sink into their bodies. Their minds slow down. Their bodies turn on. Women start to realize they can’t feel the way they feel with you on their own. And they want more!
Let us know how it goes and ask questions here on the blog.
With love,
Shana
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