As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. She specializes in supporting people over 40, both dating and long term relationships, who want to have the best love and sex of their lives, with deeper connection, honest communication and lasting passion.
Shana is the creator and host of the Practicing Love and Man Alive podcast, and has a TEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.'
Her most recent book is: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive. She also published: Power and Pleasure: A Man's Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader.
Shana has a Master’s in psychology, as well as DISC and Positive Intelligence certifications. She has facilitated decades of Authentic Relating workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality, and specializes in helping clients date and create healthy relationships after divorce.
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Why do I coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see... I fell in love with men!
It wasn't long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the "Man Mold" teaches you to be.
I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.
- Shana James M.A., CPQC.
I Finished My Book, Doubled My 7 Figure Income and Got Engaged
With Shana’s help, after almost 10 years of not dating I attracted an amazing woman I’m now engaged to. Not only is our relationship more meaningful and passionate than I’ve ever experienced, I love being an example of a healthy relationship for my daughters.
Working with Shana I reorganized my life to finish and publish the book I’d been writing for five years — Four Days to Change: 12 Radical Habits to Overcome Bias and Thrive in a Diverse World. I committed to delegating the work that drained me expanded my company’s annual revenue from $2-4 million. I am doing more of the work I love and having a powerful impact creating cultures of full inclusion in the workplace."
– Michael
I Married an Amazing Woman and Started a Career I Love
Before working with Shana I was timid and uncertain, lacking confidence and uncomfortable around women. Shana helped me transform my entire life so that I am not just a confident man, but I married an amazing woman who balances me and continually helps me grow. I also now have a successful career in Clinical Nutrition that allows me to I interact with others in ways I did not think were possible before I worked with Shana.
Having confidence has changed everything about my life and myself – the way I carry myself, the way I interact with others, the goals and relationships I have. Life is a lot easier without having this level of anxiety and worry. Having confidence helps me make conscious decisions that guide me through challenging times.
– Jon