Do you find it challenging to ask for what you want? For many men it’s vulnerable to put your needs and desires out there. Cultural norms can make it seem weak or unmanly. Today’s Man Alive guest, Marcia Baczynski, and I believe there’s nothing further from the truth! This week is a candid conversation in support of men asking for and getting what they want!
Asking for what you want can range from slightly uncomfortable to terrifying!
Whether it’s asking for help with a task around the house, support at work, more affection or to try a new sexual position… You can ask for any of it in a way that brings people closer to you or pushes them away!
In today’s Man Alive Podcast episode my colleague and dear friend Marcia Baczynski and I talk about the way to ask for what you want so you’re more likely to get it! Marcia is an internationally-recognized speaker, writer, coach and expert on sexual communication, relationships and empowerment. Her primary mission is to help people overcome shame and get in touch with what they truly want – romantically, sexually and relationally – even if it’s off the beaten path.
In this conversation we cover:
- The most common way people ask for what they want that causes them NOT to get it
- Four ways to ask for what you want so you’re more likely to get it!
- The key to having conversations about your sexual desires that makes others less likely to freak out
- How to know what you actually want, especially if you tend to defer to others’ desires
- An awesome way to regain a childlike sense of aliveness and joy along with adult satisfaction
When you’re done with this one check out another awesome episode on how to create better relationships with your conversations: To Say or Not to Say: Communication to Create Closeness
Marcia is an internationally-recognized speaker, writer, coach and expert on sexual communication, relationships and empowerment. Her primary mission is to help people overcome shame and get in touch with what they truly want – romantically, sexually and relationally – even if it’s off the beaten path.
As co-founder of Cuddle Party, Marcia has helped tens of thousands of people to speak up for the kind of touch they want, say No unapologetically, and foster more connected, affectionate relationships. In the Make Hot Play Happen weekend intensive, she co-teaches with renowned educator Midori, and helps people have more fun, lower stakes, hotter sex, more creativity and better connection in bed.
Marcia is a sought-after presenter and coach and has made over 100 magazines, newspapers, TV shows, books and radio appearances, including The Montel Williams Show, Fox News, NPR, the Washington Post, the New York Post, the San Francisco Chronicle, GQ, Marie Claire, People, Newsweek, The Daily Mail, and Penn & Teller’s Bullsh*t, to name just a few. You can find her online at www.AskingForWhatYouWant.com.
When she’s not scheming ways to make the world a better place through improving intimate relationships, Marcia enjoys finding creative ways to use her frequent-flier miles, reading historical marker signs, dressing up, planning adventures, going sailing, hanging out at the beach, spending time with her family and being the best auntie she can to the kids in her life. She lives in the Bay Area.