Talking about sex as a man, whether in the realm of your desires or health, can be embarrassing or even seem to threaten your manhood. But this leaves many men at risk of everything from an unsatisfying sex to risk of early death. Bryan Stacy’s sudden diagnosis changed his life and made him an advocate for helping you feel safe to have conversations about sex.
Talking about sex, whether your desires or health, can be embarrassing or seem to threaten your manhood.
Unfortunately this could leave you with an unsatisfying sex life, or even at risk of early death.
Today’s Man Alive podcast guest Bryan Stacy experienced a major wake up call when he was diagnosed with testicular cancer and a sexually transmitted infection at the same time.
He created a company to make sexual testing more available, as well as to make it safer to have conversations about sex.
In this conversation we discussed…
- How to create a more conscious and intimate sex life without risking your manhood or taking a “leap of faith”
- What makes it safer for you to have conversations about sexual health and desires
- What’s possible when you let go of thinking you need to know what turns a woman on and makes her happy
- The complicated topics of consent, insecurity and toxic masculinity
- Bryan’s epiphanies that were inspired by his simultaneous diagnosis of cancer and a Sexually Transmitted Infection
This was a powerful conversation and one that could save your life!
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Bryan left a career in corporate consulting to pursue a massive dream to change sexual health culture and behavior.
In 2011, fear and embarrassment left him unable to address obvious symptoms, causing his testicular cancer and chlamydia to go undiagnosed and untreated for months.
After writing and speaking to thousands about his sexual health journey, he co-founded Biem Health, an app that gives people access to sexual health doctors, the ability to get tested for STDs, and share verified test results with sexual partners.
With the right tools, Bryan believes others can develop the sexual confidence needed to live healthier, happier lives, make better sexual health decisions, and have more connected sex.
He and his team are currently building out the Biem platform to include additional sexual health services, and he co-facilitates a men’s discussion group in New York focused on sexual confidence and masculinity called “But, I’m One of the Good Guys”. His story can be found in Forbes, Bustle, or through one of his podcast interviews.
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wow. I know Bryan only touched on the surface of his work and story but a powerful episode nonetheless. Everything brought up is almost a universal experience for guys. Granted health issues differ but the fear the symptoms bring up is not. Just in hearing about the opportunities he’s shedding light on actually exist as valid hunger from other men, reassuringly affirms I’m not alone in intuition and strong feeling we as ‘guys’ really can or should be having these kinds of open conversations without feeling like I’m gonna be ‘that weirdo’ bringing deep shit up. Thanks Shana for introducing the TalkingNut. Great stuff.
Shana James says
You are NOT alone and you CAN have these open conversations Jeremy. And a powerful, connected relationship as a result.
Bringing up deep topics that create more intimacy is not actually weird but most of us never saw it modeled, so it can seem strange. When you feel good about these conversations, others are more likely to as well. I hope you go for it, knowing it will allow you to have more of what you want!