How can heterosexual men develop more meaningful sex and conscious relationships, even when they are hardwired for sex? Today’s podcast guest, author of Sexed, talks about how to get beyond conditioning from media, porn, and the sexual industrial complex, so sex can not only be more pleasurable, but also more intimate, and even transformational.
In my book, Honest Sex, I shared an expanded definition of sex that can allow you to have more pleasure and deeper connection:
“The new definition of sex I propose has a foundation of EXPLORATION. Rather than striving for a climax, we can let go of the goal and focus on the experience. CURIOSITY becomes the guide. Honest sex is about WAKING UP OUR SENSES AND HEARTS. We become more MINDFUL and aware, and we can take DELIGHT in one’s own and others’ bodies, hearts, and spirits. Beyond a rote definition of how body parts engage (i.e., Webster’s definition of moving genitalia in rhythmic movements), sex is a way to explore PLEASURE and CONNECTION through as much of ourselves as possible. Honest sex is a curious exploration of pleasure and intimacy without an agenda or goal orientation.”
Today I am excited to bring you another vision for expanded and conscious sex, one that integrates intimacy, biology, connection, and sovereignty. Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Paul Abramowitz, is formally trained in Human Sexuality by both Eastern (Totality Therapy) and Western traditions (Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality). He wrote SEXED: Hardwired By Nature, Evolving By Choice as a tool for the heterosexual man to develop personal methods of inquiry into self-understanding, meaningful sex, and conscious relating. It is a remedy to many of the “disappeared conversations” in men’s lives that have left vast chasms in our human potential.
On today’s podcast, Paul and I talk about the importance of getting beyond the old worn out conversations and caricatures about men being “hardwired for sex”, and having new and evolved conversations. In our powerfully transformative conversation we discussed….
- The difference between your sex mind and your sex body
- How to shift from entertaining to intimate and transformational sex
- The blockages that keep you seeing sex as an accomplishment rather than an adventure
- How awareness meets the reproductive imperative
- How to get beyond the conditioning from magazines, movies, porn, and the sexual industrial complex
For the men who participated in the Best Love and Sex After 40 Masterclass, congratulations for giving yourself the support to learn three of the most important skills you can use to keep your sex and intimacy alive for the rest of your life.
I let men know that I’d give them all I could in those three days and that the next step to getting more support would be to join my upcoming Effortless Affection, Connection and Sex 6 month program.
I’m thrilled to announce that the doors are now open! We start soon, so if you want to learn the foundations that take the struggle out of your sex and love life, schedule a call with me to discuss your desires and struggles here. There are a few awesome bonuses you can get if you book your call with me this week.
If the program isn’t what you’re looking for, but you do want support, schedule a time to chat with me here.
Here’s to you having the love and sex you desire, and deserve!
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Paul Abramowitz, is formally trained in Human Sexuality by both Eastern (Totality Therapy) and Western traditions (Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality). He is a long-time student of yoga and meditation, a painter, sculptor, and singer-songwriter who has dedicated most of his adult life to exploring creative avenues of expression and practice that lead to a fuller understanding of the lived human experience.