I’m thinking a lot about love these days. Because I realized that love is what’s getting me through the challenges.
I’m realizing that love is important, especially in uncertain times.
These days, many people are feeling a little shaky. The world is asking a lot of us — emotionally, financially, physically, energetically…
Navigating instability in ways we haven’t, even the most independent, capable people — the ones who pride themselves on holding it all together — may silently say to themselves: “I don’t want to do this alone anymore.”
It doesn’t mean we’re giving up our strength. It doesn’t mean we need rescuing. It means that maybe now more than ever, we’re craving and open to a different kind of support — a space to rest, and lean, to be known and appreciated.
Real, supportive love — is a kind of security.
Not in the traditional sense of sharing finances or activities, but in the deeper sense:
- The security of knowing that someone sees you…and stays
- The safety of having a steady hand to hold when the world feels chaotic
- The grounding that comes from being known and loved in your fullness — not despite your vulnerability, but because of it
For many of us, especially those who’ve built strong, full lives on their own, this desire can be confusing. We were taught that security comes from within.
While that is true, it’s only part of the story. We’re not meant to be self-sufficient to the point of isolation. We’re wired for connection. Wanting and sharing love isn’t a weakness.
In my own journey after divorce, and in my work helping people find love (often after heartbreak and often after phases of living solo) I’ve seen many people take the risk to let themselves have love as a vital part of their well-being, rather than seeing it as a luxury. And I’ve supported people to have it be less of a gamble — to have more control over creating and deepening connection.
The world may be uncertain. And love takes courage. But finding someone who’s willing to meet you — in the truth, the mess, and the beauty — is precious.
It lets you breathe a little deeper. Relax a little more. And remember what it feels like to be supported by something other than your own strength.
So, if you’re feeling a little out of sorts right now, you’re not alone.
And if part of you is yearning for connection, please know your yearning is sacred.
You’re not weak for wanting to be loved. And in these times, love isn’t just a sweet-to-have. It’s a form of resilience, and a powerful kind of security.
And you deserve it!
P.S. If you want more love in your life, book a time to chat with me here. I have a couple slots available each month and I love supporting people to have more love in their lives.