Have you ever thought about how sex could be skewing your ability to make a clear decision about whether someone is the right romantic partner for you? Today’s guest has many reasons why delaying sex will help you know who is a great partner AND allow you to further your purpose and accomplishments in the world!
Right now, as the world seems to be coming apart at its seems, it’s a powerful time to take stock of your choices. When you consider your actions while also taking a deeper look at what drives you and what’s most important to you, you may make some different decisions!
For example, sex is a powerful energy!
Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, said: “The mere possession of sex energy itself is not sufficient to produce genius. The energy must be transmuted from desire for merely physical contact, into some other form of desire and action before it will lift one to the status of a genius.”
I’m not saying we all need to be geniuses, but what if seeking to have, and having sex, has blocked your capacity to further your purpose, create a positive impact, or find a relationship that will last?
My guest on today’s Man Alive podcast, Rob Kowalski is the author of Why Waiting Works: How Fast Sex Prevents Us From Finding True Love and Long-Term Happiness. He has found that sex can “muddy the mind and heart!”
I thought it would be beneficial for you to hear what Rob has to say since he has some interesting points about what could make or break you having the lasting connection and love you want.
- How focusing on and having sex can keep you from having impactful work and important relationship discussions
- The Sex Trap — how you can get stuck in it and how to get out of it
- The path to transmuting sexual energy into purposeful and creative energy
- The benefits of abstinence for your life and relationships
- Rob’s “complete 180” from having lots of sexual partners to seeing the trap he was caught in
If you’ve already chosen a long-term partner you can listen to this episode and consider whether taking a break from sex could allow other aspects of your connection to deepen and true up.
If you’re in a relationship and not having the sex you want, check out last week’s episode: The Unexamined Reasons Sex and Intimacy Fades.
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Rob Kowalski, author of Why Waiting Works and Founder of CityFam, a Maryland-based non-profit organization whose mission is, Changing lives through the power of community. Rob is a self-proclaimed reformed bad boy. Once the biggest stripper and nightclub promoter in his hometown of Baltimore, he had a radical life-changing encounter that transformed him forever. His testimony from life of excess to redemption has inspired countless numbers of people from around the world already. His mess has become his message.