Women can be confusing and ask you to act in what seem like contradictory ways, at the same time. Tobin Zivon talks about how to “please” a woman without becoming a “pleaser” – a man who lacks his own boundaries or spine!
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As a woman I humbly understand that women can be confusing.
To be honest, I sometimes confuse myself.
I wish I could be more straightforward and know exactly what I need and say so in a rational way.
I wish I wasn’t prone to burst into tears when I feel disappointed.
I wish the same kind of touch worked for me on Monday as on Thursday.
But with the parts of people we love, we also have to take the parts that are frustrating or confusing.
I am always working on how to be more vulnerable, honest and loving.
And there is a way to navigate a woman’s emotions, needs and truth without seeing it as maddening or losing yourself!
Tobin Zivon, today’s Man Alive podcast guest, is a powerful coach. He takes what he’s learned from masterful therapists and spiritual teachers and brings it to help you have better relationships and intimacy.
In this conversation we covered…
- The foundations of masterfully navigating relationship and sacred sexuality
- The key to listen to your lover’s body in a way that creates more pleasure for both of you
- How to not get confused when women ask you to be both strong and connected, at the same time
- What happens when you start to see a woman as your sensei, rather than a pain in the neck
- Tobin’s journey to realms of intimacy and passion that are mind-blowing
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Bio:
Tobin Zivon is best known as a powerful catalyst for transformation and embodied awakening.
He wrote The Art of Mindful Living: “You Can’t Stop the Waves, But You Can Learn to Surf”, and has been teaching groups, couples, and individuals for over 18 years.
His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality.
For over two-and-a-half decades, Tobin has been wholeheartedly dedicated to spiritual awakening and to serving others in the flowering of their highest potential. His extensive training includes Zen, Zen the Ridhwan approach five years with Adyashanti, a teacher-training program with the South African Tantra teacher Shakti Malan and a three-year apprenticeship with one of the foremost transpersonal psychotherapists in America.
Tobin has been described as “the ultimate Guide… A rare, exquisite blend of therapist, coach, spiritual teacher and Tantra master all wrapped into one.”.
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I listened to this episode while having my breakfast and coffee. Meanwhile, my girlfriend was bustling around the apartment, feeding the cats, feeding the birds, and tidying up. Between her vigorous energy, and Tobin’s intensity and passion, I found myself dissolving into a meditative calm to allow it all to flow through me. It got a bit uncomfortable at times, but then it would ease up and move on with the breath.
I love how you unpacked the flow of trying something new and later doing a relaxed debrief, and fleshing out how all this can be a fun adventure. Thank you!