One of the worst moments of a man’s life is hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Today’s podcast gives you what you need for this moment and continuing to navigate the upheaval of a relationship on the rocks or falling apart.
Show notes:
If you’ve ever heard the words “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” you won’t ever want to hear them again.
This horrible moment turns life upside down and can call everything you thought you knew into question.
On today’s Man Alive podcast I was joined by Steve Horsmon, a coach for men who is an expert at helping men navigate this heart breaking situation.
In this honest conversation we talk about how men can (and need to) stop going it alone and…
- How long a woman tends to think about separating before she tells you
- The path to regain confidence after she drops the bomb
- The important shift to make when you ask questions to understand her side of the story
- Where to go for validation and affirmation
- Actively creating a relationship so you don’t have to hear those dreaded words
Steve is a man whose perspectives I respect and whose tools really work. If you’ve heard these words recently, reach out to Steve after you listen!
If you’ve heard these words in the past, listen so you don’t hear them again!
I’ve watched people change in front of my eyes as I let go of what I expect their responses to be. Then I relate to them differently, usually with more honesty, compassion, curiosity and love. If you try this and have stories to share, reply to this email to let me know what happened!
Links:
How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb
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For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women
Bio:
Steve Horsmon is an ex-student, ex-engineer, ex-program manager, ex-corporate educator, and an ex-husband.
He’s been a good guy his whole life. Like all good guys he worked hard, made a decent living and treated people kindly. He tried to please everyone in his path – especially the women in his life.
He always thought that was the key to success, satisfaction and happiness.
But he realized he was wrong. And what he learned he is now bringing to you by turning on the light for good guys who are struggling in their relationships with women.
Steve is confident you WILL become the man you want to be and you WILL have the life you want to have!
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I am a student of Steve’s work and recognise all of the steps he outlined today with such clarity. I continue my journey which has now been 12 months by stating this last 12 months has been the worst and the best of my life. My life before felt safe and warm but the light was off. Now the light is on, my wife is no longer in the room, I can see some familiar things and some scary stuff, but oh wow the colour and the detail is amazing. Steve is my brother and I love him and the group of guys in our community and through this podcast I now have yet another breadth of material to go through.. Thank you for the work you do as without it my ongoing relationship with the mother of my children would not be as strong as it is today and life is damn good…… ! SIMON -UK
I just finished listening to this episode and it profoundly resonated with me – with a hook. Can all of this actually be true in reversed roles? Because that’s what has happened in my relationship. I am the one who uttered those words “love you (as the mother of our children) but not IN love with you” based on specific events. And after an abundance of clarity outlining my needs on several occasions that might rebuild our connection, none of the steps Steve mentioned have been taken by my partner.