#200: A Decade of Relationship Lessons – Neil Sattin

 

This feels like a big milestone and I wanted to do something a little different. I brought my friend and colleague Neil Sattin, host of the Relationship Alive podcast, to talk about lessons we’ve learned over the past decade of relationships and divorces. 

 

I sometimes find it challenging to share these lessons, even though I put them into practice on a regular basis. Maybe because my range of study and exploration is so wide (from psychology to tantra, spiritual practice and meditation to relational practices, breath work and other mind altering experiences to various coaching styles – including recently being certified as a Positive Intelligence Coach), or because some of it is humbling and personal…Whatever the case, this is a dip into my and Neil’s relationship lessons through our divorces and creating new relationships. 

 

We discussed:

• Love, lust and partnership — the separate aspects no one ever taught me to assess to see whether a relationship really works
• Understanding someone vs wanting them to be different than they are 
• How to make the best decisions for yourself, and the role of your mind, body, heart and soul 
• What it is to be a generous partner without losing yourself 
• What conscious communication is and why relationships don’t work without it

I love supporting men (and people) to see what is possible in connection and intimacy. I want you to feel great about yourself and be able to create relationships that are deeply nourishing and powerfully intimate. I want you to feel like my client who emailed me today. He is two months into my yearlong Effortless Connection, Affection and Sex program and said he has spent his whole life wanting to feel the way he feels right now! 

So, have a listen to today’s podcast and feel free let me know whether you like this style or prefer the usual interview style. 

I also have one request to celebrate episode 200:

Earlier this year I published a book of some of the best Man Alive podcasts. It’s called Power and Pleasure: A Man’s Guide to Becoming a Confident and Satisfied Lover and Leader.

While it has sold more than a thousand copies I haven’t asked anyone to review it yet! If you have read it, I’d love for you to write a review to let others know what has been helpful or inspiring to you. If you haven’t read it, you can get your copy here and then I’d be grateful if you’d write a review!

As always, please let me know if you have any questions or if there is a way I can support you. 

Links:

Connect with Neil Sattin

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Bio:

Neil Sattin is a healer, writer, and couples coach, and is also the host of the popular podcast Relationship Alive where he talks to the world’s experts on the topic of how to thrive in long-term relationships. His podcast is a source of inspiration and growth for people in relationships, as well as for therapists learning how to deepen their work with couples. Neil and his partner Chloe also created the New Love Paradigm.com, where they have created “Thriving Intimacy” – a 7-week online course that synthesizes the best current wisdom on deepening intimacy in relationships. Together they produced a course called “21 Days to Deeper Intimacy” for the website DailyOM.com. Neil also writes and plays music, trains dogs, and is a father to two lovely young children.