Apologizing can be difficult. This episode is here to help you to understand the power and the art of a genuine apology.
Apologies can be tricky!
If you apologize with resentment, or insincerity, people feel it… Women especially! These kinds of apologies do not take away the pain. They can even create deeper struggle and resentment.
For men I’ve worked with, apologizing is also often feared as a weakness, or as giving someone else an advantage.
Learning how to apologize well, without giving up or giving in, is an important skill. Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Andrew Blackwood, is a therapist, parenting coach and author of The Art of a Genuine Apology: Bringing Healing to Your Most Significant Relationships. He is one of those rare people who has a bright and joyful spirit, while he also understands the depths of human pain and disconnection.
In our powerful conversation we discussed…
- Apologizing without losing your power
- Why sincerity is not enough for an apology
- How to shift out of guilt and shame, but not take all the blame
- The way “accurate empathy” can heal someone’s heart
- The steps Andrew suggests for a genuine apology
Learning to apologize in a way where we maintain our own sense of value, take responsibility for our part, and create more trust and connection is a powerful tool for growth. I highly recommend this episode for everyone, especially if you’ve ever had a hard time apologizing, or felt your apologies fall flat. Another Man Alive episode that focuses on creating reconnection is with Terry Real, a well-known author and psychologist. Listen to how to save your relationships with fierce love here!
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For more than 17 years, mental health professional, Dr. Andrew L. Blackwood, affectionately known as “Coach Drew”, has been connecting deeply with individuals, parents and teens to support their growth and healing through speaking, coaching and workshops on his book The Art of a Genuine Apology.
Andrew’s personal journey through anxiety and childhood divorce helps him appreciate the often painful challenges of those he works with. Earning a Master of Divinity in Counseling (Tyndale Seminary, 2005) and a Doctorate of Ministry to Marriage and Family (Eastern University – Palmer School of Theology, 2010), prepared him to serve well as a Clinician, guest expert and media consultant on shows like 100 Huntley Street and The 700 Club Canada. His remarkable ability to engage and bring clarity to the complex challenges of healing in relationships sets him apart as a true facilitator of change.
His desire to impact relationship culture around the world is made personal everyday as he continues to learn, heal and grow in his most prized relationships, with his wife and two daughters.