It can seem like love and power are somehow at odds with each other, especially as a man. But the reality is that you can be both powerful AND loving at the same time. Martin Luther King said it best: “POWER without love is reckless and abusive, and LOVE without power is sentimental and anemic.”
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It can seem like love and power are somehow at odds with each other. But the reality is that you can be both powerful AND loving at the same time.
In fact, as I’ve coached men, I’ve seen that the more loving you are, the more powerful you become.
The more loving you are, the less you need to defend or prove anything. You can hear another person’s experience and pause to find your own, without turning conflict into drama.
The more loving you are, the less threatened you feel by another’s success. Collaboration becomes more natural, and you see that another’s success supports you to rise as well.
The more loving you are, the more you communicate your needs and desires in a connected and attuned way, rather than dropping bombs or trying so hard to keep the peace that you let go of having them at all.
Today’s Man Alive Podcast guest, David Jurasek, is a mentor for men and author of My Heart is a Muscle. He supports men to step into a new paradigm where power and love go hand in hand. David quotes Martin Luther King’s profound wisdom: “POWER without love is reckless and abusive, and LOVE without power is sentimental and anemic.”
In our powerful conversation we discussed…
- How to shift anger and irritation into love
- Why shame needs to be actively worked with to break its spell and distortion
- How to fight fairly (and examples of David’s relationship with his wife)
- Why it’s important to take responsibility for your impact, even if it wasn’t intended
- The power of finding your core values
David is a man whose heart I felt the instant we connected. He is a man who cares deeply about people and the world, and wants the best for everyone. I think you’ll be inspired by this episode and David’s perspectives as we talked about what it is to be truly powerful, and what gets in the way of being both powerful and loving.
When you’re done with this one, check out this episode on the path from nice guy to powerful, sexy man, and how to be a nice guy who doesn’t finish last, with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy.
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David Jurasek, have over 25 years experience as a family therapist and group facilitator. His life mission is to build a village for men to rediscover and strengthen relationships that help them grow in Relational Leadership. David is the founder of Powerful and Loving, a community of good men becoming powerful leaders who cultivate thriving relationships.