intimacy

It is common that sex and intimacy changes after a “honeymoon period,” often decreasing in passion or consistency. There are some unexamined relationship dynamics that can surprisingly reignite sensuality. This episode lays them out for you. 

Show notes:

I am relaunching this episode because in times of stress, affection and connection are often pushed aside :(. 

During this challenging time a healthy sex life would be a great relief but when survival instincts kick in, women especially turn their focus to the tasks at hand. They may lean away from emotional and sensual contact. 

What I’ve seen with my clients is that a WAY more satisfying sex life is possible than they realized.  And it’s not about always having to be happy or turned on!

During a pandemic, or other stressful times, your intimacy can deepen. Sex can become richer and more meaningful! 

While I don’t believe passion, intimacy and sex inevitably fades over time, it’s important to remember you’ll have phases and turning points in your sexual relationship. This doesn’t mean you have to settle for less connection or intimacy than you want.  

In this solo Man Alive episode I share a few unexamined relationship dynamics I’ve discovered over the past 15 years of coaching men that surprisingly reignite sensuality. You’ll learn…

• What makes sex hotter and more satisfying, as the years (or even decades) go on
• How and when to have conversations about sex with a partner to increase the likelihood that they are well received
• What women tell me they long for from, and with, men 
• Increasing pleasure for you and your partner by letting go of orgasm as the “end goal”
• Practices that shake up your love life and deepen connection

I’ll give you the tools and understanding you need to help your partner open to affection and sensuality. Sign up this week to get the early bird discount!

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Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

Why does Shana coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!

It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.

I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.

 

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Conversations are one of the main ways we interact. Many people grin and bear it in conversations that are dull, awkward or uninspired, afraid to offend or hurt feelings. Learn simple ways to stop suffering these conversations and instead create spark, excitement and deep connection. 

Show notes:

How many dull, awkward or uninspired conversations have you had?
Likely you’ve had at least some.

Do you feel at the mercy of them or can you turn them into passionate, inspiring connections?

People often put up with less interesting conversations on dates, or with romantic partners, because they are afraid to offend or hurt feelings. 

If you change the subject and a woman gets irritated that may kill your chance for affection or sex, right?

But what if keeping a conversation (and a relationship) alive and hot depends on you taking some risks, speaking up when it feels flat or boring, calling attention to the elephants in the room?

Today’s podcast is a solo episode where you’ll discover how to stop suffering disconnected conversations and instead create spark, excitement and intimacy! The tools I give you work on everything from first dates to decades into a relationship. In this episode you’ll hear about:

• The four levels of conversation that help you shift from awkward or boring to playful, hot and interesting
• The foundation of creating intimacy and connection with your words
• The interplay between words and the invisible ways you influence others
• How to stop putting up with someone going on and on about themselves with no space for you
• The secret sauce to ignite spark (It’s at the end of the episode)

Many men have had great success with these tools. Let me know how it goes when you try them.

And when you’re done listening to this one, check out an old Man Alive favorite episode where I lay out the 10 Essentials of Attraction Many Men Are Never Taught. It’s not about games or lines but about ways to spark attraction that are as good and uplifting for you as they are for a woman you’re attracted to. 

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Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

Why does Shana coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!

It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.

I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.

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It is common that sex and intimacy changes after a “honeymoon period,” often decreasing in passion or consistency. There are some unexamined relationship dynamics that can surprisingly reignite sensuality. This episode lays them out for you. 

Show notes:

There is a commonly accepted idea that passion, intimacy and sex inevitably fades over time. 

What I see is that while sex in the beginning of a relationship is different from sex years later, it actually doesn’t have to be for the worse. 

In fact, many of my clients realize in their coaching sessions that they can create a WAY more satisfying sex life than they realized.  Sometimes it’s more satisfying than they ever knew it could be, even more so than the initial “HOT” sex from the beginning of their relationship.  

In this solo Man Alive episode I shared a few unexamined relationship dynamics I’ve discovered over the past 15 years of coaching men that surprisingly reignite sensuality. You’ll learn…

• What makes sex hotter and more satisfying, as the years (or even decades) go on
• How and when to have conversations about sex with a partner to increase the likelihood that they are well received
• What women tell me they long for from, and with, men 
• Increasing pleasure for you and your partner by letting go of orgasm as the “end goal”
• Practices that shake up your love life and deepen connection

This is a short episode, full of interesting content to help you create a hotter, more connected sensual relationship. 

When you’re done with this one here’s another episode to enhance your sex life. In this episode Karen Brody and I discuss How to Transform A Sexless Relationship!

I know it’s not always easy to implement all of this. If you have questions email me at shana@shanajamescoaching.com.

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Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz

For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women

Bio:

For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.

She has been known for her ability to assess, in just a few minutes, the cause of dissatisfaction and stuck points in your profession and love life. Then she creates a clear and unique path for you to have true success and incredible love.

Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

With an M.A. in psychology, DISC certification, Coaching training, more than a decade facilitating groups and workshops, starting multiple businesses and helping hundreds of entrepreneurs start their own, Shana’ range of skills is unlike many other coaches.

Why does Shana coach men?!
When I started my Masters degree in Psychology I was clearly headed toward working with women. But in the midst of my program I was given an opportunity to start coaching men. As men trusted me with their vulnerability and the pressure of expectations, responsibilities, doubt and fear, as I saw parts of men I know many women may never see… I fell in love with men!

It wasn’t long before I realized how little support men get and how unaccepting people can be of both your fears AND desires, especially men who think and feel deeply or are more sensitive than the “Man Mold” teaches you to be.

I know you are innately powerful and lovable. I know your desires are good. I have love and respect for your truest, wildest and most tender places. Nothing is too raw, too bold or too vulnerable to bring to me. I am honored to be on your side and help you create a life where you are fulfilled, inspired, respected, listened to, wanted, loved and cared for.

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