Intimacy can be scary, as it relies on being vulnerable. It can also be confusing if we don’t know how to let down our guard or create the safety needed to reveal our tender parts. But without intimacy, relationships fade and spark fizzles. Zoë Kors has created a map to intimacy that any person can follow and everyone benefit from. Whether you are just discovering intimacy or want to go as deep as possible, this episode is for you.
Do you ever feel afraid to be connected or intimate?
Intimacy can feel scary because we have to reveal parts of ourselves we’d rather not show, and parts we fear make us unlovable or unwanted.
Part of what makes intimacy scary is that we haven’t had a map or a guide to get there. Today’s Man Alive podcast guest, Zoë Kors, author of Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve is a guide for our times! Whether you are just starting to understand intimacy or, like me, you want as much as possible, Zoë has created a map to support you to become more intimate with yourself, others and the world. She calls this radical intimacy, though I wish the world recognized this as normal, rather than radical! This framework will allow you to experience a new and more meaningful way of loving and living.
In our amazing conversation, where we explored both radical intimacy and honest sex, we discussed…
- What radical intimacy is and how to experience it
- How sex can become a pleasure laboratory
- Discovering your own, and your partner’s, energetic needs
- How to navigate the inevitable discomfort of intimacy
- The concept of licking honey from the razor’s edge!
Zoë and I are women who experience the depths and edges of the human experience. The overlaps between radical intimacy and honest sex, and how we both came to these titles, are exciting! This podcast is part of an Honest Sex series, to celebrate the launch of my new book. For a limited time, you can get the kindle version for only .99. Grab your copy here. The paperback will be available next week!
Zoë and I both admit it is not easy to be human, or to have uncomfortable conversations, but having a courageous conversation now can save you from distance and resentment for years to come.
I believe in you! And I’m here if you need support.
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Zoë Kors is a sought-after thought leader of intimacy and sexuality. Her book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve (Hachette, 2022) is available wherever you buy books. She is the resident sex and intimacy coach and contributor at sexual wellness app Coral. Zoë is the former Senior Editor and Creative Director of LA Yoga Magazine and has appeared in The Washington Post, Newsweek, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Bustle, and many other publications. Zoë’s article, 6 Ways to Have Radically Intimate Sex, quickly went viral and is currently at over two million views and over 250K Facebook shares.