We explore the intersection of sex, spirituality, authentic relating, and creativity, and I offer my expanded definition of sex: Tune in to learn about co-creating a deepened honesty to enhance sexual and relational connection/gratification.
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The Vulnerable Man Ep 063
We cover a lot of ground in our conversation, from what drew me to work with men, sex (obviously!), how writing my book impacted me, starting the conversation to create deeper intimacy, and taking the stigma out of talking about sex.
#252: Overcome Performance Anxiety – Alex Grendi
Performance anxiety is common for most men, but it can be a thing of the past. Today’s guest helps men overcome this anxiety by teaching tools for men to become better lovers and have more pleasure themselves in the process.
Show notes
Most men I talk to have some degree of performance anxiety when it comes to sex. Men tell me they worry about whether they will be able to last long enough and pleasure a partner well enough. They worry about whether their penis is big enough and whether they are man enough.
Men commonly have these fears and anxieties about sex. But you can actually be free of them. You aren’t stuck with these fears and insecurities for the rest of your life! And the more you learn to let them go, the better your sex life will be.
In our powerful and important conversation we discussed:
- What can take the place of performance anxiety
- Why you don’t have to feel a pressure to perform
- Ways to access more pleasure for yourself and a partner in your sex life
- Full-body and non-ejaculatory orgasms for men
- The role bodily tension plays and how to navigate it to have more and better orgasms
While I work with men on all the mental, emotional and relational aspects of a better sex life, Alex teaches the nuts and bolts of sex and orgasm. I highly recommend this episode because it has awesome information on every aspect of your sex life! When you’re done with this one, check out this Man Alive episode on how to embody your sexual power!
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Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways
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Bio:
Alex Grendi is a sex coach who specializes in helping Men overcome Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction so they can expand their pleasure for themselves and their partners, and deepen their love and connection with their partners. His philosophy of coaching combines ancient methods, practical exercises, a simple step by step process, direct coaching, and the support of a community of men who are on the exact same journey.
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#251: The Foundations of Heart Centered Sex and Sensuality – Dan Dore
When you integrate your heart into your sex life, not only does it go from what can feel like “fast food sex” to “gourmet sex,” it also becomes connected, healing and transformative. Today’s Man Alive podcast guest talks about bringing depth into sex and sensuality.
Show notes
The more I write about sex, and have conversations with clients, I see how much is possible in people’s sex lives that they don’t realize. I often find it hard to put words to what happens when sex is not just physical, but includes the emotional and energetic realms. When hearts open and deeply connect, and the body’s energetic channels open, intimacy can be healing, transformative, delicious and can even otherworldly.
Today’s Man Alive podcast Guest, Dan Dore, is the co-leader of the Good Guys to Great Men Programs. I asked him to talk with me about heart-centered sex and sensuality, or seen from another framing — creating your sex life from the depths. He put words to experiences that I don’t always have words for.
In our heartfelt conversation we discussed…
- Combining your heart and primal nature in your sex and sensual experiences
- What it means to become aligned, attuned and expanded
- What happens when we embrace “messy” as a doorway to connection and intimacy
- Bringing intention and agendalessness to sexual experiences
- How to be turned on without needing anything
At one point in our conversation Dan said, “If you don’t know your heart, you don’t know your sex.” I would agree that those who don’t know, or can’t open their heart, are having what I call “fast food sex” in my book, Honest Sex. We want you to have gourmet meals! So check out this episode if you want more connected and exciting sexual experiences.
When you’re done with this one, check out one of the first Man Alive episodes with Dan’s co-leader, Steve Horsmon on how having fantasies can make you a more sexually desirable man!
Links:
Connect with Dan
Connect with Shana James
Website: shanajamescoaching.com/3ways
Curious what you’d need to become a better leader and lover? Take the quiz
For Women: Modern dating doesn’t have to be a nightmare for women
Bio:
As a men’s coach, Dan Dore loves to show men how to boldly create the life, love & wealth they deserve.
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